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I’m in love with someone I can never be with. I have ended the so called relationship but I really was in love with him. But found out he has a wife and I just can’t do that. I really thought he loved me just goes to show how stupid I am, I was just another bit of meat to him. Plus he is 50 and I’m 26 and I thought older men are more sensible then men my age..... how wrong I was this time. Anyone got any advice on getting over someone. P.S I work with him so I will be seeing him like 6 days a week so makes it all the more harder.

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  • KiwiWisdom
    5 years ago

    Nothing othee people do is because of you. Good for you for making a good choice. As far as he goes now, just keep it strictly professional at work. It will feel awkward for a while, but the less you feed it the less power it has. Look for reminders there are good and honest things in the world, stay positive and confident you did what you knew was right. It's really scummy to cheat on your wife and I can say that from watching my father. Just take it as a learning experience and move on. You're single again, so you're open to find someone who will behave in a more honest way. Lucky them.

    Edit - As a secondary thought, I just also think you should never beat yourself up for loving someone. Your love is a gift you choose to give, not something that's taken. Many people take gifts for granted unfortunately, but we give because we care and that's all about us - not anyone else.

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  • CDmale4fem
    5 years ago

    Well it's been said "The best way to get over someone is to get under someone".

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  • donteatstuffoffthesidewalk
    5 years ago

    the workplace and genital touchin dont mix

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  • strangethingshappen
    5 years ago

    Yuck! He's old enough to be your dad man that's too far

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  • [Old Memory]
    5 years ago

    How long had you worked with him before you "found out" he had a wife? Seems to me you may have only seen what you wanted to see. Good luck with your circumstances!

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  • nikkiclaire
    5 years ago

    You knew this up front so it's all on you. Sorry you feel down about it.

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  • RoseIsabella
    5 years ago

    Good for you for getting out of this awful adulterous situation! I don't know you, but I'm honestly proud of you! Lots of people go with married people, and don't give a rat's ass. Congratulations you have a moral compass.

    I think there is a lesson to be learned here. In the future try not to go with guys from work, and especially older men from work. Also regardless of where you meet someone, and how old that person is it's imperative to get to know that person really well before you start dating, and engaging in any sort if intimacy.

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