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They say that they don't have time to themselves anymore and that they don't have money to buy nice things anymore. They also say that they wish they could turn back time and stop themselves from having them. Both men and women said that. Is it normal?
To be happy write a book or pass on knowledge raise a kid or be involved in a child's life and plant a tree or care for the environment.
Not normal. The meaning of our lives isn't in what we consume or spend our free time on. It's in our responsibilities, and kids are certainly a big one.
You'll find this out if you ever work in an office with middle-aged women. The miserable ones aren't the ones constantly chatting about their kids.
your perception is bullshit.no...life is not made our of resposabilities and kids.we are not animals.we are humans.we are different by our brains and chosing to live different than our primal state.life is made our of happiness.that is its purpose.to be glad that when you go to sleep you dont have regrets and when you wake up next day you wont have to worry or cry.to be alive means to accept resposabilities and the outcome which is happiness. happiness is different for each person.for some is money for others is love for others is family or travel or kids or pets. being miserable does not depend on having or not having kids.there are many miserable women with kids.they cant afford raising kids or they could not be the parents they wanted or their kids are alcoholics tons of reasons to be miserable WITH kids. the degree of sadness/happiness is not measured in kids but in how much that certain person accomplished from what makes him/her happy
Interesting stream of consciousness you had me read. But responsibilities are the path to self respect and meaning. It makes life meaningful because it's hard.
I'd like to know what you think after watching a few minutes of this video:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T4fjSrVCDvA#t=145m00s
It's a little too late to recognize it for them, as for you, it's a clear warning. Take heed. Welcome to Single4Evah Club.
I hate kids and babies. I absolutely can't stand them. So it's normal to not want them.
I'm willing to bet all of my retirement money that these people you know are all under 30 years old, and that you only 'know' about a 12 (or less) people who say they regret having kids.
With that said, there are millions of people who have kids (with no regrets), and have enough time for themselves, and enough money to buy the all the things they want - because they are educated and have good careers, and spend their money wisely. SO, maybe the people you 'know' need to grow the fuck up!
It`s more normal that many of us think, the thing is that they rarely say it out loud because they`re afraid people will judge and also, because must me very hard to admit that you made an irreversible mistake, I mean, once you have kids i`ts not like you can return them because now you realize that parenthood in reality is very far from your expectations. I have never been interested in having kids because I can`t find any logical reason for that. They say that to "preserve the specie" might be a logical one, but as far as I know, humans aren`t endangered species. I even think that is immoral to impose life in others, after all, no living creature is exempt from suffering.