Equality between genders?

Old fashioned rules (like men paying for everything) is leftover from when women didn't have their own income or earned much less. It's one of those remnants of sexism that screwed over men in the end.

When you look back at the sources of a lot of history, 90% of it can be summed up as, "Congratulations. You played yourself."

Sounds like more of a people being a douche issue than a gender issue, but way to make it a 'women are assholes' thing ...instead of the normal people response, which would be: a 'my former friend is an asshole' thing.

Wanna go to red lobster, op? Ooooooops I forgot my wallet!

You should ask her to pay you back and remind her that she was taking YOU out as a thank you.

why tf didn't you speak up then if you didn't want to pay? you should have either told her a flat out no or told her to split the bill instead of giving in like a pussy

You just should’ve refused and left the restaurant before her

Man, that is one of the most arrogant things I've ever heard tbh. She wanted to reward you for helping her by allowing you to buy her dinner? That's so arrogant.

I mean, you shouldn't have paid for the meal though, you should've stood your ground. But I would've probably done the same tbh, if she just asked me on the spot at the end of the meal anyway, so that I was caught off-guard and I wouldn't have had time to prepare a good explanation of why I think that's not fair. Still, you'll certainly be prepared now if this should ever happen to you again with another girl. And if she asks you out again, then either refuse or you could even ask if she'll be paying for the meals this time since that'd be fair. And I wouldn't bother helping her with stuff anymore, at least not if it's really inconvenient to you. She seems like a user.

how in the hell did you get to pay she invite you so its her treat, after all its equality of sexes.

Some people are real users unfortunately. I don't know how much dinner at that fancy restaurant cost you, but that's how much it cost you to find out that this stupid chick isn't a true friend. If I were you I'd distance myself from this girl, and start ghosting her. She probably acts very nice when you see her, but deep down inside she's not what I would consider a nice person.

This story reminds me of when I babysat this woman's beagle for a few days. The dog was nice enough, but scared of her own shadow, and not really that housebroken as she peed on my carpet upstairs. I sort of just trusted that my friend would compensate me appropriately for my troubles. Well, in the end she offered to either pay me $10, or take me out. I was still trying to be the nice person so I told her she could choose either one, then she pops out this coupon for dinner at a Lebanese restaurant, and that's when I changed my mind, and said that I needed the $10 instead. If I had agreed to the restaurant she would have had to spend a measly $5 for my three, or four days of trouble. I remember discussing the whole ordeal with my therapist, and my therapist telling me that I should have asked for $20 a day. There certainly are a lot of users in this world.

Pick yourself up, learn what lessons you can, and move on.

I've been in your situation... more than once.

Now I am very clear about "who pays" for going to any restaurant with any but the closest friends where we have an established system.

She thought it was a date. Next time tell her you don't find her attractive and she should find someone else to use.

What a cunt I would be piss3d. If she did that to me I'd wait until I had the opportunity and screw her over worse. Its ironic that she is a business student and she is a narcissist like that.

The onus is always placed on the creator of the event, regardless of gender rolls or chivalry. It is terribly uncouth to "up sell" a place without consulting all parties in regards to payment. Your "friend" made several faux pas and is downright disrespectful towards you and I would absolutely call her on it and probably stop seeking her company, because she sure as shit isn't a friend.

Country girl actually. She sure is street smart though.

When the waitress came and handed me the bill, I pushed it over to her side of the table. She casually pushed it back to my side and said “I don’t have my purse with me”.

Jeez mate, I sure got used in every possible way.

It's kind of your fault for not speaking up. No one was holding a knife to you and forcing you to pay for that entitled brat.

That's bad, dude. I think you're in the right, but just to play devil's advocate, maybe she is a bit conceited and thought it was a date, in which case, since she pressured you and was still intending to pay you back she shouls have paid you back or at least gone 50/50. Yeah, so even playing devils advocate with this one you still come out as getting screwed over.

I think she might like you, dude, hence why she expected you to pay because she thought you were taking her on a date, but you did get screwed over and most women aren't like that. I would definitely avoid her romantically and even be a bit shy in helping her in the future. Some people are just so conceited they think merely their company is payment in kind.