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Idk it feels weird, Like sometimes I fel like the perception of oneself literally shows physically, or is it all just in your head?
| Yes, how you think of yourself physically and literally changes how you look | 10 | |
| It's all in your head, you just notice flaws/ non-flaws more | 18 | |
| I kinda get what you mean, Im not sure but I've felt it/ seen it | 2 | |
| Not sure at all | 4 |
I am a strong believer that you do manifest how you feel on the inside. Like, even if you aren't physically blessed there's stuff you can do to make yourself more attractive. Care about your hygiene, get clothing that fits you well, get a good haircut & take care of your skin. There's plenty of people who don't have the best face that do all this & look attractive.
I think this type of self care comes from people who care about themselves, though. Like...why bother if you don't believe you deserve the time & effort. Investing in yourself like that...it starts with becoming the type of person who deserves to be invested in.
If you focus on yourself, on becoming a kind person who treats others well, on becoming an interesting person who has passions & hobbies, on becoming someone who you are proud of...I think the self care follows.
And once you take care of yourself, you will be confident too & that's attractive.
I think personality comes first & the rest follows. Once you feel good about who you are, you can take steps towards making yourself look how you feel. That worked good 4 me
Anything “positive thinking will change you” is ridiculous. Wait till you get a heart attack or cancer, see if you can “positive think it away”.
Spoiler alert, you cant.
I mean physically you cant will yourself into looking uglier or prettier. Personality wise you can make it worse for yourself.
Hold on!!! That’s my bad side
...ugh what is this lightning in the room
Maybe if i use a filter... no still bad
Fuck it, im just horrid
*next morning, wake up*
Hmmm I look cute today. Look at my hair. The bed is a better stylist then me
If you think are ugly, it may serve as motivation to improve what you've got. It always been good motivation for me to get in the gym and pick up the fork.
No... Do you ever watch them crazies on shows like american idol that think they can sing, and think they are pretty, even though the judges all tell em they suck, they think people are lying....
I don't think positive thoughts literally change your facial features or your body, but they will be reflected in your expression and body language. A lot of communication between humans is on a subconscious level, and if you're feeling good about yourself, others will pick up on that.
If you're slouching around feeling like you look like a sack of shit that nobody could possibly like or find attractive, then people are going to instinctively accept that self-assessment and avoid you.
Conversely, if you feel positive about yourself, believe that you are worthy of affection, and are basically happy with the world, people will pick up on that positive vibe and the majority of people will want to spend time with you, no matter how well you fit in with the current definition of what's attractive.
Confirmation bias also comes into this. If you feel positive about yourself and the world, then you're going to notice the good things and how people respond positively to you, you'll tend not to notice any negative feedback you get from others and you'll find it easy to shrug off the negativity you do see. If your opinion of yourself is low, then you're going to notice all the things that confirm this and you'll disregard any positive signs.