Do you really turn out as you were raised?

What do you want to hear?

ive had opposite. been through horrible sexual, physical, vebal, emotional abuse, poor and instability. im now bitter and angry (tho i dont show it at all outside), horribly shy, awkward with terrrible anxiety and depression and ptsd, im very responsible with money because i never had any n know you can lose that shit in a second, i get walked all over and taken advatage of.

id say im a direct result of my environment and ppl in my life.

I was born in England and came to Canada with my parents when I was 5 1/2. My upbringing was very sheltered. They were trying to raise me as a nice little English boy in Canada. It didn't work and I started to rebel. I joined the military at 19 against my parents wishes. I tell you I grew up fast! I turned out pretty much the opposite of my parents.

No, I was raised to be a "good" girl, but I'm a slut!

Nurture is vital for children. A spartan upbringing is usually not good for a child's development.

Usually the child with ample resources, like a bird that gets the most worms, and parental care, tends to net the strongest advantages to set off as an adult with a headstart.

However, life's cruel!!!! Life is fundamentally ruthlessly competitive. Your brain and body grow and develop based on a use it or lose it adaptation process. Kids need all sorts of education opportunities to grow physically and intellectually. If the starved, spartan child has stronger cleverness, grit, and fight, that one might very likely outwit, perservere, or just outfight the softie that got coddled all the way through their upbringing. All we do is adapt to whatever environment we're in.

On the other hand, a spoiled child doesn't do that well either. A spoiled child rarely has to think. This kid just makes demands, and needs are filled. That's not exactly going to develop that child's intelligence, nope. Examples? Look at the "little emporer" issue in China. It's actually called "little emporer syndrome" because these kids are coddled to the hilt, creating pampered little snowflakes. If that snowflake is going to be a lifelong trustfund kid, then, it doesn't matter if they're useless or not, as long as they don't run out of funding.

The environment that a parent creates can't be underestimated. That enivronment acts as the initial model a child experiences in the first years of life. That's when a child's mind is the most influential. Without quoting sources, it's been shown that kids need a STABLE, secure, enrichment-filled home environment, particularly as a young child. Have fun denying that one, if you believe otherwise.

Financially, kids from finanically secure parents are likely going to do better just because these kids have a stronger safety net, but that's not always the case. Sometimes, these kids, if their parents never teach them financial management, get in over their heads, and end up in debt, or they don't take their financial resources seriously. Yeah, the parents have a massive influence. Don't let offspring remain financially uneducated. Isn't that obvious in today's world?

Nothing wrong with being nice. Diplomacy and good social skills are a personal advantage, as is not being completely naive.

I discovered the real me in the end. Hence turned out opposite.

Yes, I think so. Except for the being nice part. Otherwise, I think yes to all those questions.

I think there is truth in it, because our family influences us. But you can still overcome it all later in life

That’s a lot of questions.

Na man, I turned out pretty much competly opposite of myh parent's and the way they raised me

For the most part I turned out as my parents raised me and make them proud.
Tho I'm not as nice a person, or as forgiving as them. I will do anything for family and friends, but for the rest of the world? No, only if I get something out of it.
I can also be manipulative and could easily walk all over anyone to get to my goal. Those are the only things my parents are somewhat sorry they couldn't change about me. But in this day and age, niceness and gentleness doesn't work. I'd rather be a semi-liked rich dick, than a loved by everyone average Joe.