Do i have to change my personality? for girls

I'm a 20 year old guy, I have a social anxiety, do I have to change my personality for asking a girl out? How do I impress her.

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  • No, you should just be yourself. People can often tell when you're faking it. Drinking a fair amount of alcohol can help with girls. Dont wanna do too much to where its obvious, just enough to relax.

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  • I don't think social anxiety is part of your personality, it's like an obstruction that prevents your personality from shining through. So there's nothing wrong with overcoming social anxiety, do it for yourself though rather than because you're worried about what other people will think of you. Don't pretend to be someone you're not though, and pretend you like/dislike certain things, that would be bad.

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  • Don't, not worth it.

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  • Aside from the fact that you have social anxiety what else can you tell me, and the Is It Normal community about your personality?

    I wouldn't necessarily say that you need to change your personality, but rather that you ought to work with a mental health professional on your mental health condition which is, of course, this social anxiety with which you're afflicted.

    I honestly don't see this social anxiety thing as your personality, I see it more as a mental health condition that makes it difficult to socialize with other people.

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    • No offense to no one.. but I'm a good looking guy , I've some magical eye contact with the girl but I can't go and talk to her. :! , She probably think that I have no confidence.(& I should have a lot of confidence according to my looks :l

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  • Be yourself dude.

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  • Social anxiety or no social anxiety, nobody should have to change their personality just to fit in with others. If they try to change you, they're not worth bothering with.

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  • Pretty much but you're still young enough to change it. Not going to be easy but don't be fooled into the, "Oh the right one will come along" speak, it's entirely possible but not likely unless you have the confidence to venture out into the social jungle. Women prefer a confident man so if you want to increase your chances then that's what you'll need to become.

    Just keep in mind, this doesn't mean you have to be the most confident man in the world, just means you have to be more confident than most in the social circle you're in that have women you're interested in involved.

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  • I wouldn’t mind a guy with social anxiety. There will always be people out there who’ll like you.

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  • Yes, you have to be more confident or women will be repulsed by you

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  • Nope. I suffer from social anxiety as well & most people have told me not to change my personality. If you change yourself & someone falls for you, they won't actually be falling for the real you.

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  • chicks don't dig social anxiety

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  • No. But improving yourself is good.

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  • Naw be yourself bro. Believe it or not, I have social anxiety too, it just manifests in the worst ways possible like being compelled to talk to strangers to fill the void of silence.

    Honestly my gf is fine with my social stupidity because she has some social issues as well. I dont act differently around her, I am me.

    Your shooting yourself in the foot if you repress your true self to a new partner.

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  • Drink some whiskey and do it(liquid courage!).

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