Do female led relationships actually exist

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I recently accidentally came across female led relationships on the internet. I became interested and researched a whole lot more about them. I thought it’s something I might like to try. I already make most of the important decisions about our lives but thought this might stop some of the stupid arguments. If I have the authority within our marriage to say I’ve considered your opinion and this is what is going to happen, I see that as a huge benefit for both of us. I mentioned all this to my husband and showed him what I had found on the internet. He says it looks like a load of rubbish and doesn’t happen in real life. Does anyone know if they do actually exist and whether or not they work.

Female led relationships don’t exist in real life 3
Female led relationships work well on a variety of levels 10
Only high level female led relationships work well 0
Some female led relationships work but it’s rare 10
Only low level female led relationships work 1
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  • [Old Memory]
    3 years ago | pl

    Sounds unbalanced. Both should have a say in what happens. You're a team, he's not your sidekick and the same goes if the genders were reversed.

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  • McSorley
    3 years ago | pl

    LOL, sounds retarded. If the relationship has deteriorated to such a level that you feel one person has to step up as a "leader" you may as well just end it.

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    • SkullsNRoses
      3 years ago

      My thoughts exactly. If you’re this incompatible just leave him, then you can make all your own decisions and he can live a life he actually wants.

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  • howaminotmyself
    3 years ago

    Every single lesbian relationship is female led.

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  • KholatKhult
    3 years ago

    What the hell???
    No relationship should have a leader.
    It’s a partnership.

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    • Mammal-lover
      3 years ago

      Except in the bedroom. Someones gotta hold the keys

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      • KholatKhult
        3 years ago

        Sex doesn’t define a relationship

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        • Mammal-lover
          3 years ago

          I know. It's a joke dude. I'm not dnm for christ sakes. Cone to think of it did he block me? I havent seen him in awhile

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          • KholatKhult
            3 years ago

            He’s quieter these days, because he’s now employed lmao.

            You can see his latest comments in a Post about being turned on by fat chicks. How fitting.
            I can link it so you can check if he has you blocked

            https://www.isitnormal.com/post/is-it-normal-to-be-sexually-attracted-to-a-stomach--belly--tummy--289634#comment-2966312

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            • Mammal-lover
              3 years ago

              Oh nope there he is, seriously hes working now? Finally he learns. What's he doing?

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  • ripleyripley
    3 years ago

    female led..?
    you should both communicate about decisions and come to agreements. relationships shouldnt be about control, but rather understanding and cooperation.
    am i misunderstanding the post?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      3 years ago

      It’s not about excluding him from making decisions. I value his opinions and want him to be happy. But so often we bicker over stupid stuff which leads to bigger arguments and then 9 times out of 10 we do what I said in the first place. Things like what colour to decorate the living room, what films to see, what restaurant to go to and most often his contribution to the housework. We both work full time yet if he had his way I would do about 95% of the housework, as it is I nag him and still end up doing about 70%. I think if I was more formally in charge he would have to help more and we would avoid escalating silly disagreements

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      • Boojum
        3 years ago

        It sounds like you two need to put some time and effort into learning how to communicate and negotiate like two adults.

        It also sounds like you both need to learn to accept that you're two individuals with different priorities and needs, and sometimes the best thing for the relationship is to just let the fundamentally trivial stuff slide.

        My wife is - to put it charitably - indifferent about housekeeping, while one of the lingering effects of nearly a decade in the Navy many years ago is that I'm much neater and more organised. I realised soon after we got together that I could either get constantly wound-up over her slovenly ways, or I could learn to accept them, keep the parts of the house that are exclusively mine (like the workshop) neat to my standards, and take it upon myself to tidy the shared parts of the house when it reaches a state that I can't accept.

        It's not a fair division of labour, but some things just aren't worth fighting over.

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  • ellnell
    3 years ago

    Both partners should lead the relationship together.
    It won't work if one is a spinless pussy doormat. Just be an adult and communicate together.

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  • olderdude-xx
    3 years ago

    It is rare that there is a truly balanced relationship with equal co-sharing. Most relationships tend to have an overall leader, although often the lead for certain issues or subjects is transferred to the other party because they are better at it. Example: I'm married. I own my house (pre-marriage) I make all decisions on the house, except for interior decorating and colors and designs for upgrades (my wife chose the style and color of the new roof).

    I have observed a number of female led heterosexual relationships that thrived and were multi-decades stable.

    So yes, they work if matched with the right man.

    Two people who fight for control will almost always quickly fail in their relationship.

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  • JellyBeanBandit
    3 years ago

    No relationships should be led by anyone. There needs to be compromise and equality.

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  • controversy
    3 years ago

    Female led relationships don’t work

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      3 years ago

      Why not?

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    • olderdude-xx
      3 years ago

      Of course they do... for the right couple.

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  • Tommythecaty
    3 years ago

    They do, but the guy being psychologically passive always seems so odd to me, like they’re brain damaged or some shit. I get the same feeling when encountering the white knight syndrome too lol.

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  • Holzman_67
    3 years ago

    They’re all female lead and any man who denies this is kidding themselves

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      3 years ago

      That’s my point, I already lead the relationship and I’m always fair and consider his views and needs when I say or do things. But he sometimes wants to challenge me but 99% of the time backs down and does what I said in the first place. We can have hours or even days bickering and arguing about something then in the end he just says, oh do whatever you think best. But, if he acknowledges that I am in charge and knows I have listened to him and considered his opinion, then he doesn’t need to do all of the arguing, especially if he knows that he is expected not to argue and if he does there will be a consequence.

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      • Holzman_67
        3 years ago

        Yeah I will say this. Men don’t like fuss, but then they don’t like to be walked all over either, because it’s emasculating. Leaves men in a funny place, wanting to keep it simple but not wanting to be passive and submissive. I’d say he has to put up a fight for his own pride and ego but in the end at times that would be against his own rationale, women often are right and consider things more completely

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          3 years ago

          Yes I get your point but I’ve decided it’s something I’d like to experiment with. I told him earlier today I’d like to give it a go, we are both home at the moment in lockdown because of this Coronavirus so I told him no one else needs to know as we are not seeing anyone or having anyone in, even if we were no one else need know anyway. It’s not like I want him running around dressed as some sort of sissy housemaid. I’ve told him if he goes along with this he will get his reward in the bedroom, although he might need to reward me 2 or 3 times first, but I will introduce that little bit of information later once he’s on side. He’s going through his grumpy stage of acceptance at the moment so things will probably start slowly but progressively from tomorrow or the next day.

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          • Holzman_67
            3 years ago

            Good luck! Feel free to fill me in/keep me updated

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              3 years ago

              As you wanted up dates today his training began. He had lessons in using the washing machine and ironing his own shirts. He also found out what it’s like when I get an orgasm and he doesn’t, it’s usually the other way round, but this afternoon I told him I thought we should go to bed for a bit of fun. Then I had him give me oral twice, before I broke the news to him that it was time to stop, as the washing machine would have finished it’s cycle so it was time to go hang the washing out to dry. Tomorrow he’s going to find out that the bed doesn’t miraculously change the bedding on it’s own and the bathroom is not self cleaning. I’ve told him tomorrow afternoon I expect another orgasm, or maybe 2, and if he does his chores to an acceptable standard I may let him have his wicked way with me after my orgasm. I will be finding fault with his chores so he won’t actually get his wicked way but he doesn’t need to know that just yet. Saturday morning will be his time but I’m not sure yet when I will break that news to him.

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  • Heleki
    3 years ago

    Women can't lead, period. Their hormones get in the way. Sadly, female-led relationships do exist because the men who enter these relationships are wimps. So they kinda deserve each other in an unhappy relationship full of passive aggression and suppressed anger issues. Real relationships are always about the man setting the rules, and the woman obeying him. It just can't work any other way. That being said, for a man to demand obedience from a woman, he has to set a good example himself. He can't be addicted to Playstation at age 40 and simultaneously be seen as a Provider. He shouldn't be going to the supermarket in his leopard shorts and flip flops. Why can't today's men dress properly at all times? If you don't want a fucked up relationship, stay true to your gender role. If you're a man, don't wimp out. If you're a woman, always see yourself as inferior and don't demand equality.

    --- Old school thoughts

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  • jodi1955
    3 years ago

    depends on the two people involved if it works or not. most people are traditionally bias in belief that the man has to be the head. what ever works for the couple is what is right. I know one couple that she is the leader and it works great for them!

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  • bluestar155
    3 years ago

    yeah this relationship can work well if it started out like that to begin with. if it is something you are just now advocating for in the relationship after being married and it has never been like that before and your partner doesn't agree with it once you bring it up right now then it will probably never work for you. for your situation, would say to compromise with it if you can or at least try to have a serious talk with him about it

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  • Mammal-lover
    3 years ago

    They do, I've known a few women like that. Not many though.

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  • bigbudchonga
    3 years ago

    Simps, man. There are a lot of them who would let you do this, but they're going to be the more pathetic men.

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    • SkullsNRoses
      3 years ago

      A pathetic whipped slave sounds like OP’s dream.

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    3 years ago

    Just in the kitchen

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    • ripleyripley
      3 years ago

      another original women-stay-in-the-kitchen joke! this website continues to amaze me.

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        3 years ago

        Well actually if you didn't get your nickers so easily in a knot you would see that I mean women are the boss of the kitchen because they are better cooks! are better at organising ingredients. I mean this on a normal house hold level.

        Don't be so quick babe *smacks on ass*

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