Can a relationship between a 19 year old f and a 30 year old m work?
About a month ago, I started working for a new company on a temp project auditing that could end up being a more long-term opportunity. I am a 29 year old man, 30 in February.
The first day in full and half of the next day, I was trained by a young woman in sales support who is 18 years old. She will be 19 years old in December. I really would not have considered her as a potential partner due to her age, but we just really hit it off and the way she handles herself is like she's 22. Pretty much everyone who meets her is amazed that she's only 18.
It's just like everything is lining up and I guess I'm really only concerned about the age. I'm not a typical 29 year old - only have had a couple of short-term GF because I just never felt like I found the right one. I've a 2 year degree and my generals out of the way if I want to go back to school and she is in school pursuing a business degree that will eventually be at university. She lives with her family and is Hispanic and family-oriented. I'm white. After years on my own in Illinois, I just moved to Houston to live with relatives for a change until I'm settled with a job and such and my relatives are family-oriented and I go to church with them.
I think we're on a pretty similar level looks-wise considering people with similar levels of attractiveness end up together. She likes me and knows I like her. I can't keep my eyes off of her. She is sexy to me, but also pretty, so very capable, and just really impressive.
In the 1960s and earlier, these types of age differences could work in a relationship pretty easily. I'm not sure if, in this day and age, it can? Do I just go with what feels right and, maybe worst-case, we just end up in a 1-3 year relationship in which we both gain relationship experience and possibly both finish our education? My goal has been for the next woman to be "the one"; could a 18-19 year old female possibly be in the same mindset and know who she wants? I would at least venture to say that a Hispanic woman would be more apt than a white woman.
She just makes it so easy and it's like we both know we are working on things and she has a good, understanding heart. I feel like we could progress to "having it all", but I'm also not completely sure how to handle it. I don't want to wound her nor do I want to hold her back from her education and I don't want to see her get too giddy or attached either and have it interfere with my job or hers.
I'm kind of reserved and quiet and she is more outgoing and I believe she knows I need to be around her and see her more. Unfortunately, where we sit there are monitors blocking our view of each other so it's been hard to get completely comfortable. She has asked to sit at a different cubicle in which I will now have a clear view of her and I do think it will help me get more comfortable with her.