Boys, men, women would you leave someone if ?
Mostly men this is aimed at. I went on 9 amazing dates with the most amazing man. He never once tried anything on, he would make an excuse to hold my hand or touch me with a finger gently on the leg or back. The thing is I never did anything back. It got to the 8th date where he put his arm around me and pulled me in, and I didn’t even cuddle him... why? Cause I’m fucking stupid.
Social anxiety, being shy and awkward and the fact this is all new to me fucked it up, or so I felt. I was just getting comfortable to do that stuff... but my anxiety fucked me over. I would nudge him and if he put his arm around me in public I would lean into him.
I phoned him two days after our last date to explain why I hadn’t show affection as it was eating me inside out. And he said he was ready for a relationship. It wasn’t me and I’d done nothing wrong, and I’m a great girl and if the timing was different he would snatch me up. Then he said affection comes with time. I tried to explain myself but he didn’t say no to not seeing me again but ‘it looks like it’ll have to be it’ he went and I messaged him a long message about all our memories.
He replied saying he felt valued as a person and that I would find someone.
I replied and he replied again saying ‘listen, I’ve been blessed to have experienced all that stuff with you, but there comes a time where more has to happen, and that’s what was missing for me’
I don’t know whether he’s pushing me away cause he’s had a bad experience with an ex or what. But I miss him and I feel like it was my fault. I messaged him last saying I had feelings for him and that I wanted to do that stuff with him. He was amazing on the last date and even before I called him...
So what should I do?
Is it my fault?
Would you leave someone or would you talk to them about it first ?