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INN for my boyfriend to follow me around wherever i go in the house? If i want to take a shower, he wants to take one with me, if i have to pee or poop, he wants to be in there with me, etc. and if i tell him i wanna be alone he says he understands but seems sad. is this normal?
It could just be that he gets excited around you when you're naked and also gets sexually excited/aroused by taboo stuff, which is a hard topic to broach with your significant other.
If you're OK with the premise of showering/peeing/pooping with him in there with you as long as it's on your terms and consensual but you find him following you everywhere without you giving him the all clear beforehand unacceptable, just tell him straight that it's OK if he's into that but he needs to OK it with you first. Consent and boundaries are paramount and if you give him this sort of compromise he can breathe a sigh of relief and start to treat you in a more respectful way.
Then again, if the whole thing weirds you out and it's the actual act of being watched whilst peeing/pooping or showering with him that you don't like, you should leave him because you're perfectly within your rights to feel safe at all times.
Tell him that you will buy a dog leash and put it on his neck and he will have to be on 4 if he wants to follow you everywhere because that's what dogs do
that is abusive and i would advise you to make sure you have a safe place to go and break up with him RIGHT NOW. he is emotionally abusing you by saying he'll be sad if you leave him alone. and following someone everywhere even to places like the toilet or shower is also abuse.