Bf says if i clean his apartment he won’t kick me out

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i stay with my bf 3-4 days out of the week give or take. sometimes when we fight he kicks me out and is so rude to me. his apartment is messy as fuck and i really wish he would just clean it once a week but he doesn’t. i feel like he waits around for me to do it. he had a fly problem in his kitchen and i told him about it and he did something about it. but this morning i said there’s still a few more flies in there (not complaining just saying) and he flipped out. and started saying how i should clean up without him having to ask me and that if i did clean up he wouldn’t kick me out because i would be deserving of staying there. he talks about how i don’t pay rent (when he doesn’t either his MOM pays for it) he’s 27 and i’m 19. what do you think of this

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FARTNIGGASBELIKEOOPSISHITTED

5 years ago | pl

"he's 27 and i'm 19"

OMFG Shut up with this shit already!

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- [Old Memory]
  
  5 years ago
  
  This.
  
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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  5 years ago
  
  what
  
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factcheck

5 years ago

OMG get away from this loser as fast as you can. You deserve so much better.

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Handyman

5 years ago

Refuse him sex until he cleans his place.

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Boojum

5 years ago

He's 27 and his mommy is paying the rent. I assume this is because she can't stand him living at home, and he's a manipulative asshole who has guilted his mommy into paying his rent long after he should have been standing on his own feet.

It's his space (even if he's not paying for it and not looking after it), so it seems to me you either accept that he's content to live in a shit-heap, or you decide that you're not willing to live like that and leave him to rot in his own waste. You have to assume that he's never going to get his act together. In fact, the safest assumption is that his slob tendencies will only get worse. You don't have any right to criticise his lack of domesticity in his home, and he doesn't have the right to demand that you clean up his mess.

The most you're responsible for is cleaning up after yourself when you're staying with him.

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nikkiclaire

5 years ago

Sounds like he is back on the drugs 😂

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- RoseIsabella
  
  5 years ago
  
  I kinda hope he does get back on drugs.
  
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  - Sassafras77
    
    5 years ago
    
    Why would u want somebody on drugs ,that's stupid to even say
    You need a brain transfusion!!!
    
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    - RoseIsabella
      
      5 years ago
      
      Well, OP's loser, abusive boyfriend can't die of an overdose if he doesn't get back on drugs sooo... yeah, I kinda do.☺
      
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      - [Old Memory]
        
        5 years ago
        
        lol
        
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        Thanks.☺
        
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    - Alduin
      
      5 years ago
      
      Can I ask, do you: take pain killers (or any medicine), drink tea or coffee, consume alcohol or smoke tobacco?
      The latter two are more dangerous than weed yet are both legal.
      
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      - FARTNIGGASBELIKEOOPSISHITTED
        
        5 years ago
        
        What are you talking about? This OP has posted before that her BF does heroin (at least). Who gives a shite about weed? It's barely "illegal" anyway, and most real painkillers are extremely difficult to get these days (probably because of people like you). Also alcohol itself isn't that dangerous, once again people like you who can't live without being mentally altered all the time are the ones who use it dangerously.
        
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        5 years ago
        
        he doesn’t do heroine. he used to
        
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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  5 years ago
  
  idk man
  
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  - nikkiclaire
    
    5 years ago
    
    Tell him to get one of his hookers to clean it.
    
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      5 years ago
      
      lolol
      
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Babygirl17

5 years ago

He is a fucking jack ass! Get rid of that good for nothing scum bag! Us women are not made for cleaning! You will not put up with this I hope! Girl power, sister! (did I mention he is a dick???)

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Stargazer4

5 years ago

Dump him.

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Mark92

5 years ago

Ditch him, he is a total asshole. Get someone who actually cares for you. My girl friend moved in with me last year and we help out each other all the time in household tasks. We enjoy doing things together and tasks gets done quicker. That doesnt mean I have the right to say that to her if she ever refuses to do it and I would never think about it. Get someone who respects you for who you are and loves you and is not treating you like a house maid!

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Bushwhacker40

5 years ago

How many times have you sat and wondered why you're still with him? If the answers at least once then maybe it's time to move on. Doesn't sound like he wants to change.

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charli.m

5 years ago

No one is this stupid.

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Sassafras77

5 years ago

That's blackmail ,if he's treating u
Bad ,get out of there and put yourself first for awhile and get yourself together and when the times right again you'll find someone,just put it in the Lord's hands !!! Sounds like he's already cheating on you anyway !!!

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  5 years ago
  
  uh why?
  
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  - Sassafras77
    
    5 years ago
    
    Just reread my comment and listen to your heart !!!
    
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Bazinga

5 years ago

You are paying him to stay there with sex. Time to find a better roommate.

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[Old Memory]

5 years ago

Sounds abusive. I would look for a better partner.

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e51pegasi

5 years ago

How are your boyfriend's buddies these days?

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  5 years ago
  
  annoying
  
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  - e51pegasi
    
    5 years ago
    
    His party pals still getting in the way of your domestic bliss eh, bastards.
    
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      5 years ago
      
      wait what
      
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Sassafras77

5 years ago

Listen ladies ,I've been with my man almost 4 yrs now and we share the house work ,he does the dishes if I cook ,I do the laundry and the boys help put it away and I tidy up the house everyday ,point is I don't like a dirty house and I love the yards to be clean,to get girl that posted the post ,get your life together ,and if he's good to u stay and if u love a clean house ,clean it ,and get right with the Lord and count your blessings !!!

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MangoTango

5 years ago

Neither of you are handling this with any team effort, nope.

If he's got super low standards about the cleanliness of this apartment, I suggest you just dump him. Find someone compatible with your living standards.

Find something better to do, look as if you're dating other guys, lol, he'll suddenly treat you like a princess, if he's that into you.

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[Old Memory]

5 years ago

Lmao, this shit again! This time, it's normal. Clearly your relationship is on the rocks, so if you're gonna live there with him, he can expect you to do a part.

I know that he's not paying, but his Mom probably meant to pay for him to stay there, giving him more entitlement to live there.

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Iszzy123

5 years ago

Ur bf is a child and you should try to date a man with his own stuff

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HypnoDom

5 years ago

What I've gleaned from your post is that he is lazy, irresponsible, dwells in his own filth, has a temper problem and doesn't respect you.

If you enjoy cleaning a boyfriend's or husband's home, there's nothing wrong with that. That's a kink for some people!

But staying in a relationship with someone who seems not at all ready for a relationship--or adulting in general--seems unwise. Trust me, you can do better.

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RoseIsabella

5 years ago

What do your folks think of this guy?

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  5 years ago
  
  my mom doesn’t rly like him bc i complain about him but my dads family does
  
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bigbudchonga

5 years ago

You're staying at his house rent-free, and all he wants you to do is clean up once a week. Quite frankly I would kick you off if you refused. My god where have all the good women gone.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  5 years ago
  
  he hasn’t asked me to move in, he kicks me out whenever i want, and it’s his fucking mess. i buy grocery’s once a week. he doesn’t help out with that. i’m only there 3-4 days a week so
  
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  - bigbudchonga
    
    5 years ago
    
    Your staying rent free 3-4 days a week, it's really not much to ask. I do agree though that him throwing you out all the time is grim.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      5 years ago
      
      also, he never comes to visit me. i drive there every week. and buy good at the store. why the fuck would i pay rent if he never even asked me to move in
      
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      5 years ago
      
      so what do you suggest when he tries to kick me out
      
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      - bigbudchonga
        
        5 years ago
        
        I would just go and don't respond to him for like a week. My mum does the same thing to me occasionally, and when she threatens it I go something like "right I'll get going then," and then she's like "owh no you don't really have to leave." But I do anyway because it shows you don't take it as a threat and won't lower yourself pleading to stay.
        
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curious-bunny

5 years ago

Sounds like it's time to get some eggs maybe devil them and hide them about, and then leave his pathetic ass, or just leave, really though you should dump him. Look at it this way do you want to spend the rest of your life with someone who kicks you out has anger issues and who is a slob who makes you clean up after him. Just leave him you can do so much better, I understand the appeal of going for an older guy the whole man vs boy argument bit still though sounds like you are dating a boy

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- [Old Memory]
  
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  Diary of a Wimpy Kid?
  
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    No just good old bitchyness
    
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