Are people owed an explanation when they're rejected ?

People love to ask why they're getting rejected. I feel like I don't owe them one. When they press for answer I tell them something hurtful like they're ugly or I don't like their voice or something else untrue just because they agitated me.

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  • Technically no, you don't "owe" it to them, but it's a decent thing to do and gives them closure.

    Why do you find it agitating, and why go out of your way to hurt someone even further than they're already hurt?

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    • Just tell them they’re not your type and move swiftly on, no need to cause pointless drama and make it even more awkward. Of course this doesn’t apply if your potential suitor is being a knob.

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  • Seems childish to me to make up something wrong with them.

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  • They aren't owed, but it's kind of shitty not to tell them why, because if they know they at least know how to improve in the future. Also they may keep bothering you if you don't let them know. Its better to end ties with people mutually without having to have drama with them. By giving them false answers with intent to hurt their feelings, it makes you the shitty one in these events.

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  • No. If someone says no, cease & desist and walk away. Very rarely happened with me (I can literally count the number of times it happened on 1 hand) but found it very insulting, though the sadist in me did enjoy one particular incident.

    Me: Not interested.

    Girl: Why?

    Me: Why should I be?

    Girl:[gets pissy]

    Me:[smiles throughout]

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  • I think most good people feel alittle bad when they reject someone. I dont think its normal that you feel the need to hurt them. Usually people would want to hurt them the least amount, and even lie about why theyre rejecting them to make them feel better.

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  • Technically no, as nobody owes anybody shit.

    But it’s a more decent thing to do in those cases.

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  • If it is a decent person then maybe explain what happened but if it's somebody who was just a prick then no they don't deserve an explanation

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  • I wouldn't say owed but it would be a considerate thing to do. I let the person know why when I'm "rejecting them"

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  • The standard avoidance answer is, “It’s not you, it’s me.” This translates to, “You’ll never know.”

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  • Yes and no is the answer

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  • Sometimes; but, not always.

    It totally depends on the situation.

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