An old flame just got divorced and invited me to come visit. should i?

In 2 weeks an old flame, who is 40 with 5 kids from 3 different men, is having the 300cc implants she got at 19 removed and having 450cc implants put in. She just got divorced and asked me to come visit her (in another state). She even insisted I stay at her place. Her implants should be healed by the time I get there. Does she want me? Should I assume so and make the first move? Or should I wait for her to do so?

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  • Don't. Unless you want to be the 4th baby daddy that is not even in a relationship with her. She's collecting them all. Don't do it.

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    • she gonna collect em all like pokemon

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    • I have no intention of having a baby with her or anyone else at this stage in my life. I'm happily retired. But I would be her muse and shack up with her if she asked me. She has a house, drives a Jag, and is a former lingerie model. And I love her.

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  • Nah man dont go to another state to stay with a chic with 5 kids. If she was in town fuck her but theres a reason she has 3 baby daddies and none of her relationships work.

    Shes desperate for someone to help her take care of her situation.

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    • Damn - that's twice in one day I actually agree with you! But guy, she's SO f-ing hot. Sweet too. Yeah, she's got issues - who doesn't? And I've been pining for her ever since she left me. Are you saying she wants to use me? I got no money or property. Not even a big schlong. So what could she want? All her kids are out on their own except one.

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      • If u aint got money. Shes prolly using you as a rebound relationship. I personally wouldnt mind getting used if I got to fuck her. But shes gonna leave you. Its a plus that she only has one kid but man if its out of state that could be rough. Depends how far.

        You dont wanna put yourself in a simp type position you know. Like driving other states to fuck chics and then some reason dont get laid its kinda like beta or whatever idk.

        You could always go on google and get a 20yo hooker down the road. Google your city and "buy escort". Abunch of ads for them come up. The hot ones are kind of high tho.

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  • You're probably better off with the crack whore on the corner of the street

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    • Really? A crack whore? Is that would you would prefer??

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  • Do you want to go? If yes, go. If no, don't.

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  • After much thought and observation of her behavior/reactions, I've decided that I would be going out there for the wrong reasons. And I've told her so.

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  • Just to remind everyone. I'm not asking for anyone's permission to go. I'm a big boy and I can make my own decisions. I don't need your "validation" either. What I DID ask is:

    Does she want me? Should I assume so and make the first move? Or should I wait for her to do so?

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  • 5 kids with 3 different men sounds like a keeper...

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    • Never said she was wife material

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      • Okay good luck paying child support

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        • Uh, who said anything about having a child with her? I'm not a teenager, ok? I know how those things "happen" and how to prevent them. Idiot. What I DID ask is:

          Does she want me? Should I assume so and make the first move? Or should I wait for her to do so?

          Now if you don't have anything intelligent to contribute (which is my guess), then STFU!

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          • People get pregnant even on birth control and using condoms and if you're in the US abortion is banned there so was only saying be careful.

            My cousin got pregnant and she was on birth control and the guy used a condom. So expect it could happen is all no need to get angry.

            I wouldn't make a move on someone like that but if you really want, I'd let her make the first move, there that's my opinion. Have a nice day I mean it no hate.

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            • Agreed on this, just want to add that abortion isn't banned across the US. It depends on what state she's in.

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  • Really weird info to give and also gives no context to your past with her.

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  • She sounds like bad news for reasons that have nothing to do with you. I'm not concerned about her breaking your heart, I'm more concerned about how you were able to type this post and still consider driving over there.

    Hey, I like fake boobs probably more than the next guy, but it's clear that you're into her just for them, and she's attracting you to her place by using them. Take a cold shower. You already said in another post that you have nothing to offer her, so why do you think she wants you back, directly after a divorce?

    If you think you're actually going to get into a relationship with her, as the Poll choices imply, then you're dreaming. Be realistic. If it bothers you that much, just call her up and get this stuff cleared up. From your other posts, it sounds like you're willing to do pretty much anything for her, and she knows that. Don't get in your car, pick up a phone.

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    • Really? You think I stayed in touch with her for 20 years just for a piece of ass? She's sweet, kind, and generous. And I do have something to offer - a good heart. Something you apparently lack.

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      • Yes. I do. You mentioned her implants 3 times in the OP. Literally half of your post was about how she was getting bigger boobs and they would be healed up by the time you got there. You didn't mention anything about her being "sweet" or "generous" until you got a negative response in the comments.

        Which means the first thing you think of when you think about her is... her boobs. You also described her as an "old flame" and your main question was about whether or not she "wants you." You even have "Do Her" in one of your poll responses. One of the comments you agreed with, 1WeirdGuy's, said "if she was in town, fuck her" and your response was "but she's SO f-ing hot".

        So, yeah, I think you stayed in touch with her for 20 years just for a piece of ass. Why wouldn't I think that? Am I supposed to assume she's a great person, when according to you, all she sent you was something like this?

        "My divorce papers are in. How about coming over? I'm getting bigger boobs (450cc), they should be healed by the time you get here. You can even stay at my place. <insert various wink and eggplant emojis here>"

        If you think I'm being disrespectful, then you should have presented her in a more respectful way.

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        • I can see why you'd make those comments. However, I'm not going to explain our relationship, nor do I feel the need to, on this site. Do I find her physically attractive? Absolutely! Is that why I've stayed in touch with her for 20 years? I doubt it. She and I grew quite close in our short time (2 years) while I was in (state). We lived in the same apartment complex. We spent a lot of time together. She helped me out when I needed it. I was and am her best friend. But I'm also open to more, if it happens. Always. A good person is a good person. And a friend is a friend, no matter what. Perhaps if more relationships started on that basis, instead of pure physical attraction, the divorce rate wouldn't be so high. Is she high maintenance? I think so. But she has provided for herself. She's a fighter and a survivor. And I appreciate that, because I am too.

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          • "I doubt it" doesn't fill me with confidence, but I'm not the one who needs to be filled with confidence.

            I don't know her, you do. If you think you can handle her on that level, go for it. Just... wait for HER to make the first move, okay? Even if you stay at her house. Frankly, I'm starting to suspect you more than I suspect her.

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  • Forget about her, she's in the past. Let sleeping skank-hoe bitches lie. Stay away from her, she's trouble, could certainly ruin your life, man! She might want to make you baby daddy number four so she can trick you into taking care of her, and her three illegitimate kids. She might even give you a sexually transmitted disease! She needs to sue her three baby daddy's for child support, and leave you the hell alone.

    She's probably getting those bigger implants so she can try to attract more men. Don't trust her!

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    • They're not illegitimate - she was married when she conceived and gave birth to each and every one. And if she was truly a skank ho, she would have slept with me a long time ago. And STDs? Most people know how to protect themselves from such things these days. She get support from her baby daddies already. Besides, she knows I'm retired and on a modest fixed income, with no property or means. Sounds like you've had a lot of experience with skank whores and STDs though.

      Now is she getting bigger implants to attract more men? Doesn't it sound like she's attracted enough men with those little 300cc ones? I think you're way off.

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      • It's your life, do want you want. It looks like you have already made up your mind though. I think you just made this post because you crave validation, and yet you have some doubts.

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        • "Crave validation"? Well, I certainly don't need yours.

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