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I am not lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender. But I am biromantic, meaning I am romantically attracted to both genders. Am I part of the LGBT community?
I don't get the bi-romantic thing. Basically you love someone without sexually being attracted to them? Would that not suggest you are attracted to someone like you would be a friend?
Ok, I will write a little thing comparing my feelings towards my crush and my feelings towards someone I like platonically.
1. I get a lot more excited to see my crush.
2. I want to touch my crush a lot more.
3. I would go through ALOT more trouble to hang out with my crush.
Another thing: USUALLY, when I have a crush on someone, I find them more attractive than anyone that I like platonically. However, right now, that is not the case. There is someone I like platonically and I actually think she is prettier than my crush. But this is a huge exception and barely ever happens to me.
The main thing is that when I have a crush, I simply have more feelings towards them than towards people I like platonically. That doesn't necessarily mean someone has to like their crush MORE, just that they have feelings towards their crush that they don't have towards people they like platonically.
Sorry if my explanation isn't that good. I just had my first crush last year and I am not used to explaining my feelings towards my crushes.
You're over complicating things. Do you want to kiss what you call your crush? Do you want to give your crush oral sex? If no to both then it's friendship. You can be excited to see a good friend too.
Yes, I want to kiss my crush. No I don't want to give her oral sex or any other sort of sex.
But I would like to kiss her alot and touch her alot. More than my other friends.
Yes I sometimes get excited to see someone I like in a platonic way, but not nearly as excited. And it's a different type of excited. When I see my crush I get butterflies in my stomach. Also another thing: not everyone is like me. It is possible to have platonic feelings that are even more intense than a crush.
I struggle with it too tbh. Sexual attraction is what takes what would otherwise be a platonic friendship to that level of being romantic. Without sexual attraction, what is your connection to the person? They're just a friend you have a strong attachment to.
I guess if you are willing to form some kind of a "relationship" with the same sex (even if not exclusive attraction to the same), then yeah you are LGBT.
Although I don't understand it, I don't find this "biromantic" or "aromantic" or whatever label quite as offensive as I find all that genderqueer and abiguously "queer" shit (which I really do view as a mockery of LGBT people).
LGBT? Eh.
LGBTQA+? Yes.
Even straight folk are considered apart of the LGBTQA+ community in most cases if they're considered "Straight Allies"
There is no actual community. It's a figure of speech.. A media construct. People's community is usually their friends and family, not defined by their sexual orientation.
The real question why would you want to be. As a bisexual I find even the term lgbt community to be crazy. There is no community and why should there be. People who want this sort of thing are nuts. Who you sleep with should not affect who you want to hang out with.
These people are shit stirrers in my opinion.
It makes sense that a lesbian would rather be friends with other lesbians, though. Even in a platonic context. Some straight women have this thing going on where they sometimes get creeped out when a lesbian is affectionate with them, even if the lesbian is not even hitting on them. I have heard lesbians and bisexual girls complain about this.
I think it's just what people used to call gold diggers, you want something and your probably just prostituting it out for whatever that is.
You're only a part of it if you want to be. Though from what you're describing, yes, they'd accept you.