Am i a psychopath or sociopath?

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I had a fight between my university project group bc they screwed up really bad of the works and they had multiple chances at fixing it before the day of presentation.

I was angry and called them incompetent and brainless. They forbid me from knowing the progress of the new project and cut communication with me. Today, after waiting for a whole week, we got a chance to talk with the teacher. She talked me down and put the blame on the entire group for being flawed and bad at teamwork.

When going back home, I was thinking of how I couldn't bother no matter how much I tried. I was like "Should I ask for forgiveness or not?" "Am I right or wrong?" "Did the teacher actually said something meaningful or not?"

I really have problems to keep up things in my memory. Right now, while typing, I can't remember half of the teacher's speech. I can't feel remorse, even if they said "what you've done was "moral aggression" and you shouldn't do that."

And even if I reunite all of them and say "I'm sorry." I still feel it's more of a lie than anything. They were wrong, they didn't fix the project, they got the payback after having the feedback of the overall work being bad, and at the end of the day they were like "yeah we tried guys, maybe next we'll do it right."

I can't feel any guilty, and the teacher said I should, but I keep forgetting how things happened. Why there should be a reason to be guilty of something I did that was right?

My parents said I'm a sociopath for doing things like that, but honestly I can't discern the differences. What do you guys think?

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  • mauzi
    4 years ago

    Probably more like autistic having a meltdown if anything. I think your parents were speaking hyperbolically when they said sociopath. Still, not very good parenting by them.

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    • LloydAsher
      4 years ago

      Aspergers does that to you. Lack of knowledge of social cues. Just as intelligent just a bit less emotionally stable.

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  • Boojum
    4 years ago

    I wonder if you have problems recalling what the teacher said because all the time she was talking, you were busy denying the validity of each and every thing she said that was even slightly critical of you. In other words, you weren't actually listening to what the teacher said, but rather internally arguing with her and refuting every point she made that didn't conform to your perception of what had happened.

    If you're genuinely interested in knowing if you have antisocial personality disorder (psychopathy and sociopathy aren't official psychiatric diagnoses, but rather points on the APD spectrum), it's not hard to find online tests.

    What you describe happening with your university project isn't uncommon. If you stick a random bunch of emotionally immature people together and ask them to work together on a project, there will be tensions and disagreements. Usually, the point of the project isn't really to gain knowledge in the course's subject area, but to gain experience of working together with others.

    Regardless of how well the other members of the group did on the technical aspects of the project, you lashing out and calling your pretend work-colleagues "incompetent and brainless" indicates that you have a lot of work to do on your interpersonal skills and possibly anger-management issues. You need to understand that behaving like that if you were a member of a team in the real world would almost certainly result in you quickly ceasing to be a member of the team. If you're a total genius in your field or if you own a company, you can sometimes get away with such behaviour. But real world employers want people who not only can contribute something useful to the group effort, but who also know how to keep the social wheels greased and running smoothly.

    It's difficult to know what really happened since you provide only an outline and it's biased, just as any account any of us ever give about some event always will be. You say you see nothing to feel guilty about or to apologise for, but it seems to me that the fact that the presentation went badly means you share some blame. Maybe every other person in the group was indeed stupid and incompetent, but the shortcomings in your interpersonal skill-set meant you failed to communicate the problems you saw and you weren't able to persuade them to do things your way.

    Maybe you don't need to apologise for that, but I do think you need to make a major attitude adjustment.

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  • LloydAsher
    4 years ago

    Psychopaths are born, sociopaths are made under extreme emotional circumstances. You just hate incompetence, which is understandable.

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  • RoseIsabella
    4 years ago

    You are neither.

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  • [Old Memory]
    4 years ago

    'psychopath or sociopath' what does either one have to do with you. You had a disagreement and got growled at, get over it.

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  • palehorse
    4 years ago

    You did nothing wrong. It was totally their fault.

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  • brutus
    4 years ago

    Neither.

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