He has a job.. he works. They like to come down visit us for the summer. Yes i agreed they are "spoiled brats" i blame alot on Boyfriend's dad & his brother.. cuz its his brother & sister's kids. We dont have any kids of our own.. I did that bout 2 years ago to not clean after them for 2 months straight i couldnt handle it.. Boyfriend works alot of hrs.. He get so wore out tired by the time he comes home. He had yelled @ em.. they will do it when we tell em to. but if no one says anything & the mess is there the kids wont do anything till someone says something. I'm the only 1 who does it call.... Last summer i actually made a chore list for them monday-sunday. On weekend its free day for them. on week days they each got a chore even bath schedule! they used to argue when its bath time who go 1st.. Even i made the chore list.. they still dnt do it till i tell em to. They wil give me attitude if i ask em anything... The oldest 15 year old she did dishes last summer. This summer i am thinking bout having the youngest 2 to do dishes.. they NEVER done dishes by themselves b4.. It is stressful & i get so overwhelming!
Having a job and working long hours shouldn't mean you are taking all the responsibility for these children when they're visiting to be with him! Doesn't he even take any time off work to spend with them when they're visting?
If what you've been doing so far and him yelling at them hasn't worked, it's time for a different approach - for example, consequences for their actions. Work out their responsibilities and the consequences of not meeting them and calmly and consistently stick to it ..... eg, pocket money/TV/internet access/outings.
And sorry, I misunderstood, I thought they were your bf's kids: I'd be making your standards a condition of their visit, otherwise you send them home. Why are you letting your entire summer be ruined by these spoiled selfish brats whose stupid parents must be delighted to get rid of them on to you? It must be great for them to foist their childraising failures off on to you, but you do have a choice about whether or not to accept that
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Shouldn't your boyfriend be dealing with this situation? After all, they are his kids.
If I were you I'd stop cleaning up after them - surely he'll notice and do something about it?
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He has a job.. he works. They like to come down visit us for the summer. Yes i agreed they are "spoiled brats" i blame alot on Boyfriend's dad & his brother.. cuz its his brother & sister's kids. We dont have any kids of our own.. I did that bout 2 years ago to not clean after them for 2 months straight i couldnt handle it.. Boyfriend works alot of hrs.. He get so wore out tired by the time he comes home. He had yelled @ em.. they will do it when we tell em to. but if no one says anything & the mess is there the kids wont do anything till someone says something. I'm the only 1 who does it call.... Last summer i actually made a chore list for them monday-sunday. On weekend its free day for them. on week days they each got a chore even bath schedule! they used to argue when its bath time who go 1st.. Even i made the chore list.. they still dnt do it till i tell em to. They wil give me attitude if i ask em anything... The oldest 15 year old she did dishes last summer. This summer i am thinking bout having the youngest 2 to do dishes.. they NEVER done dishes by themselves b4.. It is stressful & i get so overwhelming!
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Having a job and working long hours shouldn't mean you are taking all the responsibility for these children when they're visiting to be with him! Doesn't he even take any time off work to spend with them when they're visting?
If what you've been doing so far and him yelling at them hasn't worked, it's time for a different approach - for example, consequences for their actions. Work out their responsibilities and the consequences of not meeting them and calmly and consistently stick to it ..... eg, pocket money/TV/internet access/outings.
And sorry, I misunderstood, I thought they were your bf's kids: I'd be making your standards a condition of their visit, otherwise you send them home. Why are you letting your entire summer be ruined by these spoiled selfish brats whose stupid parents must be delighted to get rid of them on to you? It must be great for them to foist their childraising failures off on to you, but you do have a choice about whether or not to accept that