I get what you mean but you've piqued by interest and curiosity to want to hear specific examples. Don't worry, you don't need to. I have a solution *sticks you in the microwave*
Well, in other words I take my own feelings outside of a scenario so that I can understand the person. People always add their feelings to perspective, which limits their understanding on about everything. If you want to learn something, you have to remove your feelings until you go through the scenario. Then you can develop true feelings about that scenario.
For example, pedophilia. If anyone announced they were a pedophile, they would be buried alived- but what would you make of someone who never acted on it? Who refuse to be around children, can't live with themselves and they burn themselves or something horrible every time they start to think of it? What if you learned that they shouted it out because they felt they should be punished and they never told you this side of the story?
I used to imagine what kind of sick people could do this thing and that until I started separating my ego and connecting my compassion. Just to give an example.
So basically you put yourself in someone elses shoes. Cool. I've witnessed some elders incapable of doing that. Then again, old dog - new tricks. So it's not really their fault. More power to you though, for thinking in different angles, always a very useful and fruitful mental tool.
Your example reminds me of a post a while ago where a pedophile confessed his urges, his decision to never act on it, and wanted people's opinions. Couldn't find it to link you to it but it was an interesting read for sure
What if, in your example, the person did act on his pedophilic urges, does the identical feeling of disgust return? Would you be sick about it to the same intensity?
I would feel he is incredibly selfish not to think of how he may affect the victim.
No bad person ever thinks that they're bad. They justify what they do. They convince themselves of why it isn't bad. They cut themselves off from their compassion so they can satisfy their petty short term goals.
The only thing that separates good from evil is compassion. If you cut yourself off from compassion, you will do evil things no matter how nice you think you are.
I could forgive those who have harmed me if they were truly sorry. What makes these people disgusting in my eyes is that they make no apologies because they have no concern for the feelings of others. That's what bothers me the most about rapists/abusers. You have to be so wrapped up in yourself to be so cruel to others.
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I get what you mean but you've piqued by interest and curiosity to want to hear specific examples. Don't worry, you don't need to. I have a solution *sticks you in the microwave*
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Well, in other words I take my own feelings outside of a scenario so that I can understand the person. People always add their feelings to perspective, which limits their understanding on about everything. If you want to learn something, you have to remove your feelings until you go through the scenario. Then you can develop true feelings about that scenario.
For example, pedophilia. If anyone announced they were a pedophile, they would be buried alived- but what would you make of someone who never acted on it? Who refuse to be around children, can't live with themselves and they burn themselves or something horrible every time they start to think of it? What if you learned that they shouted it out because they felt they should be punished and they never told you this side of the story?
I used to imagine what kind of sick people could do this thing and that until I started separating my ego and connecting my compassion. Just to give an example.
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So basically you put yourself in someone elses shoes. Cool. I've witnessed some elders incapable of doing that. Then again, old dog - new tricks. So it's not really their fault. More power to you though, for thinking in different angles, always a very useful and fruitful mental tool.
Your example reminds me of a post a while ago where a pedophile confessed his urges, his decision to never act on it, and wanted people's opinions. Couldn't find it to link you to it but it was an interesting read for sure
What if, in your example, the person did act on his pedophilic urges, does the identical feeling of disgust return? Would you be sick about it to the same intensity?
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I would feel he is incredibly selfish not to think of how he may affect the victim.
No bad person ever thinks that they're bad. They justify what they do. They convince themselves of why it isn't bad. They cut themselves off from their compassion so they can satisfy their petty short term goals.
The only thing that separates good from evil is compassion. If you cut yourself off from compassion, you will do evil things no matter how nice you think you are.
I could forgive those who have harmed me if they were truly sorry. What makes these people disgusting in my eyes is that they make no apologies because they have no concern for the feelings of others. That's what bothers me the most about rapists/abusers. You have to be so wrapped up in yourself to be so cruel to others.