I married a divorced woman with children. I had sex once with one woman before I began the relationship with the woman I married. Virginity was never a high priority for me nor did it influence my decision whether or not to date a girl.
If you're very religious and you're looking for the same then virginity counts, but not nearly as much as you seem yo think it does. BTW I think you're being way too harsh in your judgment of "those other women", especially when you refer to them as worthless! Pride goeth before the fall! Have you read Luke 18:11?
11 The Pharisee stood and prayed thus with himself, God, I thank thee, that I am not as other men are, extortioners, unjust, adulterers, or even as this publican.
We all make mistakes. To err is human. Some of us hit our thumb with a hammar once or twice and then we see the error of our ways and become a lot more careful. Some people hit their thumb dozens of times before they learn, and sometimes they KNOW the first or second time but it takes time and practice to get it right.
We are all being targeted in our Achilles Heel. One persons weakness may be sexual promiscuity, another's is drugs and alcohol, another's may be low self esteem that influences us to make more mistakes because we think all is lost already so what does it matter?
People usually judge us the way we judge ourselves. Don't be so hard on yourself. Remember when you learned to ride a bike? Did you get discouraged and give up when you fell down and skinned your knees. You probably dusted yourself off and tried some more. That's what life is about. Picking ourselves up and moving on.
We are expected to make mistakes. That's why when Peter asked Jesus how many times he should forgive his brother that sinned against him, up to "seven times?" And Jesus answered; "... "No, not seven times," Jesus replied, "but seventy times seven! ... Jesus said to him,
"I do not say to you, up to seven times, but up to seventy times seven. ... "
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DO NOT let this one mistake define the rest of your life! Guys make mistakes too. Any guy that really expects his wife to be a virgin when he marries her has a screw loose in his head. He's living in a fantasy world just like the girls who hope some knight in shining armor is going to come along on a white horse and sweep them off their feet into the "happily ever after"!
Pick yourself up and keep trying. Life is good. Also, DO NOT settle for some guy who acts like he's doing you a favor by dating/marrying you because you're damaged goods. Save yourself for a guy who loves you because you're a good person and you have so much to offer and he knows that virginity is not a measure of character.
would you marry/commit to a woman who is no longer a virgin?
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I married a divorced woman with children. I had sex once with one woman before I began the relationship with the woman I married. Virginity was never a high priority for me nor did it influence my decision whether or not to date a girl.
If you're very religious and you're looking for the same then virginity counts, but not nearly as much as you seem yo think it does. BTW I think you're being way too harsh in your judgment of "those other women", especially when you refer to them as worthless! Pride goeth before the fall! Have you read Luke 18:11?
11 The Pharisee stood and prayed thus with himself, God, I thank thee, that I am not as other men are, extortioners, unjust, adulterers, or even as this publican.
We all make mistakes. To err is human. Some of us hit our thumb with a hammar once or twice and then we see the error of our ways and become a lot more careful. Some people hit their thumb dozens of times before they learn, and sometimes they KNOW the first or second time but it takes time and practice to get it right.
We are all being targeted in our Achilles Heel. One persons weakness may be sexual promiscuity, another's is drugs and alcohol, another's may be low self esteem that influences us to make more mistakes because we think all is lost already so what does it matter?
People usually judge us the way we judge ourselves. Don't be so hard on yourself. Remember when you learned to ride a bike? Did you get discouraged and give up when you fell down and skinned your knees. You probably dusted yourself off and tried some more. That's what life is about. Picking ourselves up and moving on.
We are expected to make mistakes. That's why when Peter asked Jesus how many times he should forgive his brother that sinned against him, up to "seven times?" And Jesus answered; "... "No, not seven times," Jesus replied, "but seventy times seven! ... Jesus said to him,
"I do not say to you, up to seven times, but up to seventy times seven. ... "
//biblehub.com/matthew/18-22.htm - 17k
DO NOT let this one mistake define the rest of your life! Guys make mistakes too. Any guy that really expects his wife to be a virgin when he marries her has a screw loose in his head. He's living in a fantasy world just like the girls who hope some knight in shining armor is going to come along on a white horse and sweep them off their feet into the "happily ever after"!
Pick yourself up and keep trying. Life is good. Also, DO NOT settle for some guy who acts like he's doing you a favor by dating/marrying you because you're damaged goods. Save yourself for a guy who loves you because you're a good person and you have so much to offer and he knows that virginity is not a measure of character.
Don't get the surgery!