The way you are raised always has an effect on how you are now. My parents were abusive, physically, sexually and psychologically. I've learned to forgive them for being problemed people...
I have struggled quite a bit with mental instability...
But ultimately, we can chose our actions. Learning that changed my life. My parents are no longer responsible for who I am and what I do, I am.
If anything, I THANK my parents. One thing that they gave me, through their strict punishments and their abusive behavior (which they have recently admitted to) is character. A sense that I don't need accolades to do what I need to do and a sense that in the end, only I can watch out for me. I know that things can always be worse and I count my blessings. Work comes instintively to me and I don't allow myself to excuse my behavior when I have a choice. Many people in my generation have seem to have forgotten that... you have a choice.
I had to move out to figure that out, and I suggest that if you are my age (around 20) and you're still not moved out, you should seriously consider it. After all, you can't look back and figure out a situation in hindsight if it's not even behind you yet.
There are a few people in my family that, even after 20-30 years still blame their parents for how they act NOW. There's no excuse for a grown adult who has been out from their parents authority for that long to continue blaming their parents for their shitty choices.
Would you forgive a parent/s for making you who you are ?
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The way you are raised always has an effect on how you are now. My parents were abusive, physically, sexually and psychologically. I've learned to forgive them for being problemed people...
I have struggled quite a bit with mental instability...
But ultimately, we can chose our actions. Learning that changed my life. My parents are no longer responsible for who I am and what I do, I am.
If anything, I THANK my parents. One thing that they gave me, through their strict punishments and their abusive behavior (which they have recently admitted to) is character. A sense that I don't need accolades to do what I need to do and a sense that in the end, only I can watch out for me. I know that things can always be worse and I count my blessings. Work comes instintively to me and I don't allow myself to excuse my behavior when I have a choice. Many people in my generation have seem to have forgotten that... you have a choice.
I had to move out to figure that out, and I suggest that if you are my age (around 20) and you're still not moved out, you should seriously consider it. After all, you can't look back and figure out a situation in hindsight if it's not even behind you yet.
There are a few people in my family that, even after 20-30 years still blame their parents for how they act NOW. There's no excuse for a grown adult who has been out from their parents authority for that long to continue blaming their parents for their shitty choices.