Basically, you're his safety-net. When he falls, you catch him. Or in this case, when he's off his meds, you keep him in check until he can do it himself. I think it's fine, because it sounds like he already has medications that works well for him, but the effects wear off too fast.
My suggestion: Establish a rule with him.
When he's medicated, tell him the truth and why you do it. Once he understands and gets his feelings about it out, ask if it's okay that you continue to be his safety-net. Along with that, have him carry a timer with him that will remind him to take his meds on his own (if you guys haven't done this already).
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My two cents about this is I get what everyone is saying about consent and all that, but you're his wife (or husband maybe????). You're doing what's best for him and his well being. It doesn't make sense to let a sick man remain sick. Although, I'm still all about letting him know what you're doing, because you don't want him thinking he's getting out these manic episodes alone somehow, that may prompt him to become more lacks with taking his meds or thinking he doesn't truly need them.
I sincerely appreciate this response. Your first paragraph is exactly what I’ve been trying to get across. Thank you.
Your final statements also are important to me, I’ve been thinking and I believe that him taking control of his own mental health is the best way for him to cope and exist happily.
While I’ll always be there to catch him if he falls, I need to put my efforts into helping him gain a secure footing.
Also, to relate to your husband, taking medication is weird, especially if you're still fairly young (20's - 40's, and sometimes 50's). Like many of us expect to take those exaggerated cocktail of meds as seen in tv shows when we're 70+, but when it starts sooner than what we expected, a lot of us tend to feel like failures or that we're defective. It might be hard for him to admit it, but try talking to him about how he feels about being on medication to begin with and his condition overall. I know he has a therapist, but maybe sharing this with you could be a huge improvement, especially if he knows how much you love him despite his mental health so he doesn't feel like a burden.
You make excellent points about OP letting him know what she's doing. It's also occurred to me to wonder what would happen if she's sneaked the medication into his food and he takes another dose without her knowing?
Doubling his dosage would hardly do anything but make him feel a little groggy. He often takes a double dose if he has an important meeting or thing to do that day.
PS: And I just remembered something VERY important about how to relate to people with mental health issues: DON'T LIE TO THEM! They have enough problems sorting out what's real and what's not without people bullshitting them and/or being sneaky with them.
Would you force/sneak your s/o to take medicine they need?
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Basically, you're his safety-net. When he falls, you catch him. Or in this case, when he's off his meds, you keep him in check until he can do it himself. I think it's fine, because it sounds like he already has medications that works well for him, but the effects wear off too fast.
My suggestion: Establish a rule with him.
When he's medicated, tell him the truth and why you do it. Once he understands and gets his feelings about it out, ask if it's okay that you continue to be his safety-net. Along with that, have him carry a timer with him that will remind him to take his meds on his own (if you guys haven't done this already).
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My two cents about this is I get what everyone is saying about consent and all that, but you're his wife (or husband maybe????). You're doing what's best for him and his well being. It doesn't make sense to let a sick man remain sick. Although, I'm still all about letting him know what you're doing, because you don't want him thinking he's getting out these manic episodes alone somehow, that may prompt him to become more lacks with taking his meds or thinking he doesn't truly need them.
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I sincerely appreciate this response. Your first paragraph is exactly what I’ve been trying to get across. Thank you.
Your final statements also are important to me, I’ve been thinking and I believe that him taking control of his own mental health is the best way for him to cope and exist happily.
While I’ll always be there to catch him if he falls, I need to put my efforts into helping him gain a secure footing.
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There you go, you two got this.
Also, to relate to your husband, taking medication is weird, especially if you're still fairly young (20's - 40's, and sometimes 50's). Like many of us expect to take those exaggerated cocktail of meds as seen in tv shows when we're 70+, but when it starts sooner than what we expected, a lot of us tend to feel like failures or that we're defective. It might be hard for him to admit it, but try talking to him about how he feels about being on medication to begin with and his condition overall. I know he has a therapist, but maybe sharing this with you could be a huge improvement, especially if he knows how much you love him despite his mental health so he doesn't feel like a burden.
You make excellent points about OP letting him know what she's doing. It's also occurred to me to wonder what would happen if she's sneaked the medication into his food and he takes another dose without her knowing?
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Doubling his dosage would hardly do anything but make him feel a little groggy. He often takes a double dose if he has an important meeting or thing to do that day.
PS: And I just remembered something VERY important about how to relate to people with mental health issues: DON'T LIE TO THEM! They have enough problems sorting out what's real and what's not without people bullshitting them and/or being sneaky with them.