Would you ever meet online friend in person?

Let's say you meet some people online through a common interest (ie: video games, BDSM community). you "bond" with these people who you find to be spread throughout the world, but mostly in central Europe and the states. You spend at least a year texting, voice calling, and even video calling some of these people as you continue to grow as people and learn about each other. Eventually the idea of a European meet up gets thrown around and you sit back and consider. " I have heard and seen what these people look like so they are not physically catfishing. I love to travel, have saved up money to pay for my expenses, and would be seeing the places where some of these people live, but meeting up with "strangers" in your own country has been taught as a big no-no, let alone half way around the world."

given the situation, would you go visit these people (and why)?

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  • I doubt anyone online would want to meet me.

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  • I have met a fellow IINer in Canada. There is a female IINer that lives near me. I really enjoy her, but would be afraid to meet her in person.

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  • In general, I'd prefer that me and whoever I know solely online maintain the idealized versions of ourselves that we've created for each other and not have that illusion shattered by a personal meet-up.

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  • I have done and I hope to do so again.

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    • Did anyone/thing hold you back?

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      • I was nervous about it, particularly as I was doing all the things you shouldn't do when you meet an online friend.

        It went well.

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        • Thsts reassuring :)

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          • Just be safe and sensible. Should work out fine.

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            • I have only been in contact directly and individually with 2 of the people I actually want to meet. The rest are fun people, but totally not stable or trust worthy enough.

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  • I have met online acquaintances before and they were pleasant experiences. I would do it again. Keep in mind that I had an online association for a few years before we actually met so I had the opportunity to really get to know these people. I don't think I would jump at an opportunity to meet up with someone I just met online.

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    • Would you say 1.5 years is too soon?

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      • no I wouldn't

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      • no. my friend had a girlfriend in the U.K. that he met after a few months.

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        • T.T I have my mother riding up my ass about trying to take a trip to meet a “friend” this summer. It might not happen and its making my really upset.

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  • I haven't met anyone in person from this website, and it's probably best that I not do so. That may sound harsh, but lots of people aren't who, or what they claim to be online. I like to take things slowly, and honestly don't mind if things don't go anywhere.

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    • Not from here explicitly, just the internet as a whole.

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      • Well, I guess I technically already have met someone from online. I met my ex from Plenty of Fish.

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  • If you are going to do that, do it on your terms, to some extent. Pick your place to stay, arrange for other activites, arrange a public meet first etc. Then if they dont show, or are not who they say they are, well then fuck it, you will still have a great trip.

    Or meet somewhere where everyone is a visitor. Less likely any shenanigans happening if they have to travel too.

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  • If you are an adult and know how to keep yourself safe like not going somewhere private with people you dont know, then it's fine. Stay at a hotel though, not at their place. You really dont want to be abducted in a foreign country. At least until you know them better. Take someone with you who can worry if you dont come back from a date or hookup.

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  • I met some friends online... Weren't really the same people IRL

    I mean they looked the same and stuff but online they seemed so polite and nice and caring for everyone and IRL they just seemed... Idk... Like they could care less? A naturally annoyed person who complained a lot about other people when they weren't there... It just wasn't a very good experience and it really kind of destroyed the image of who I thought they were from how they presented themself online

    After we both went our separate ways to go home that day, they started messaging in the chat again and it was like a completely different person was talking all over again

    It was a disappointing experience in the end but I'm sure things turn out better for some people

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  • I've met tons of people from the internet! I live in Sweden and an online friend from Holland came to live with me for a week some years ago. It was fun and Went well, but he was a bit annoying and couldn't Schedule things so I had to stress him so we wouldn't miss the busses. But all in all it Went well.
    Another friend of mine is from the US and we want to meet up but it's expensive and Life gets in the way. Both are a bit uncertain about being the one who travels.
    And I got a dog in April 2018 and I … do not want to leave her for weeks, fuck no :p

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    • Traveling from the states is quite expensive for me... I do have a ticket that will get me there for $250, but I might not be able to cash it in so thats kinda killing me slowly

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  • Almost did, turns out they were (most likely) a borderline sociopath even though I knew them for 5 yrs. oh well. nowadays i'd rather not meet anyone

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  • I met a few online friends, mostly girls. It all went well.

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  • I've met 3 people from online gaming. Two are from Bulgaria, one is from Romania. They are good friends of mine.

    10 years ago we used to play World of Warcraft and then Need for Speed online. The idea of meeting up in real life popped up once and we met in my town, kinda in the middle of where everyone lived. We had a great time. We met on several other occasions before I moved to Germany.
    Nowadays sometimes we write still call each other.

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  • I’d do it, but i’d do a lot of inadvisable things.

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  • That's the thing hey. The only reason I talk to 'online friends,' is because they are online...you get me...
    Like I don't ever want to meet them because then the distance will be covered and mediocrity will return. Online we all put up pretences...and I wonder what pretence that online friend may have fronted with me for a long time. That said, I only chat to pass the time, and I would not be serious about meeting anyone unless I had an interest in being a little more than just friends.

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    • That is my problem. I dont want this to be a half way round the world booty call, but there is some interest (since this is a relationship founded on bdsm) sounds silly I know

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      • It never should be a booty call. Period. I googled bdsm...lol...yea it's silly. Don't pursue that. Sex is never the foundation for a solid relationship.

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        • It seems so trivial to go visit someone based off of that in hopes of turning it into a normal friendship. I just cant seem to get these feeling out of my mind (it’s giving me anxiety).
          I am trying to convince myself that this is a bad plan and not worth it but my internal instincts and gut feelings have been made up already

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  • There's only 3 people I would do that for and hell yes i would. It would be fun to hang out with then

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  • I would feel sorry for anyone who met me in person.

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    • Raisinbran, don't say that! You have a great username, I'll bet you're cool!

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    • RaisinBran is my favorite cereal

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