That's not necessarily true. I know plenty of people who you would not class as a stereotype of self harm, myself included. I'm not an "emo". My favorite band is Foals, I listen to classical too, I don't wear heaps of makeup, or wear black all the time, etc etc. I think personally that most people who self harm feel very alone, and someone to confide in, such as a partner, would be very helpful.
Fair enough.
I know a lot of people do self harm for genuine reasons because it's the only way they can find for release. But then we get these emo types who do it just because they find it cool and the done thing, which is quite offensive to those who feel they need to self harm for genuine reasons.
But then if you are in bad mental health, a relationship will make it worse. It'll be too much responsibility. You do need someone to confide in like a parent, good friend or counsellor, just like I did when I went through depression. A relationship has to be based on equal give and take and when your mental health isn't so good, you aren't able to give so much because you have to heal yourself. They are your lover, not your saviour.
I came out a four year long depression as soon as I came out a year long relationship. He couldn't handle my breakdowns. And I don't think it's a coincidence that as soon as he let me go I started to get better. Being made single was the best thing anyone ever did for me.
You think abandoning the lonely will help them? Thats why they die thats like saying "let that scuicidal child sit alone till they die they need to be alone" these people need our help and you are just going ti reject then like they have a plague? Thats pretty heartless.
You clearly did not even bother to read my reply. I did not mention anything about leaving a self harmer isolated. In fact, I said the opposite.
Plus you sound too young to even use this site...
I agree with Bonnabell my current GF has had mental breakdowns infront of me and is still suicidal at times, im fairly confident she would have committed suicide a number of times in the last four months if she didnt have me to be there for her and help her, she was much worse before we started dating and even i can see the improvements and it helps for self-harmers to date each other, it helps to have someone to talk to and not be judged by about it, I dont think I could date anyone other than a person who self harms because I feel judged by people who dont or never have
You just sending them off to therepy and saying I do not want to be assosiated with you is not showing you care. What if they have no freinds I think they need more then doctors. They need a person to say "ill stick by you". Shipping them away and saying get help to them is saying "your a freak I think you need to be locked up". You do not reject them like that and that is how they will take it. They need to be treated like humans not monsters! Just becuase I will not abandon this kind of person deosnt mean Im child.Also if you want my age read it.
Would you date someone with self harm scars?
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That's not necessarily true. I know plenty of people who you would not class as a stereotype of self harm, myself included. I'm not an "emo". My favorite band is Foals, I listen to classical too, I don't wear heaps of makeup, or wear black all the time, etc etc. I think personally that most people who self harm feel very alone, and someone to confide in, such as a partner, would be very helpful.
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Fair enough.
I know a lot of people do self harm for genuine reasons because it's the only way they can find for release. But then we get these emo types who do it just because they find it cool and the done thing, which is quite offensive to those who feel they need to self harm for genuine reasons.
But then if you are in bad mental health, a relationship will make it worse. It'll be too much responsibility. You do need someone to confide in like a parent, good friend or counsellor, just like I did when I went through depression. A relationship has to be based on equal give and take and when your mental health isn't so good, you aren't able to give so much because you have to heal yourself. They are your lover, not your saviour.
I came out a four year long depression as soon as I came out a year long relationship. He couldn't handle my breakdowns. And I don't think it's a coincidence that as soon as he let me go I started to get better. Being made single was the best thing anyone ever did for me.
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You think abandoning the lonely will help them? Thats why they die thats like saying "let that scuicidal child sit alone till they die they need to be alone" these people need our help and you are just going ti reject then like they have a plague? Thats pretty heartless.
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You clearly did not even bother to read my reply. I did not mention anything about leaving a self harmer isolated. In fact, I said the opposite.
Plus you sound too young to even use this site...
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I agree with Bonnabell my current GF has had mental breakdowns infront of me and is still suicidal at times, im fairly confident she would have committed suicide a number of times in the last four months if she didnt have me to be there for her and help her, she was much worse before we started dating and even i can see the improvements and it helps for self-harmers to date each other, it helps to have someone to talk to and not be judged by about it, I dont think I could date anyone other than a person who self harms because I feel judged by people who dont or never have
You just sending them off to therepy and saying I do not want to be assosiated with you is not showing you care. What if they have no freinds I think they need more then doctors. They need a person to say "ill stick by you". Shipping them away and saying get help to them is saying "your a freak I think you need to be locked up". You do not reject them like that and that is how they will take it. They need to be treated like humans not monsters! Just becuase I will not abandon this kind of person deosnt mean Im child.Also if you want my age read it.
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I was sent off to therapy but didn't feel like a freak who no one cared for?