Yes, I definitely would date them and I'd definitely have a proper relationship with them. I'm an atheist, but I actually find faith quite attractive so long as it's free, measured and realistic. Obviously I'd require them to be respectful, but I don't see that as a distinguishing point since I'd require that of an atheist too; I can't stand people who can't respect others (my ex was very intolerant of religious people, and it was really embarrassing for me when she talked about it in public).
Politics is a much bigger sticking point than religion.
Haha, she was shitty in a lot of ways. Being an asshole to my religious friends was the least of it :P
Some people have religion as the central point of their life, about which all their principles are drawn. I have politics as the central point of my life, and my principles are drawn from that. I'm a very politically interested person. My central goal in life is to find a way to live which supports my principles. Gandhi said "Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony", and I truly believe that.
That means that if we're just dating (i.e. hanging out together, having fun, learning together) her politics doesn't bother me, because her broader lifestyle need not interfere with mine. But if we're having a really serious relationship (i.e. one with a view to be living together and supporting each other) it would be necessary to have a partner who shared my lifestyle to avoid me having to live in a way which doesn't satisfy me. It depends on the seriousness of the relationship. I hope that makes sense :)
At the moment I've not got it all worked out yet with regards to where I want to be in terms of my lifestyle. I know I'm not content with consumerism and big business and hierarchical structure and divided labour, and I know I want to chase anarchy in some shape or form, but I'm still hazy about the details of what I want to accomplish. I am still working towards building enough clarity and specificity in the direction which I want to commit to.
I think that word, "specific", is the answer to the question :) My really serious partner's politics would have to be damn similar to mine, I think. The less serious the relationship, the less strict I'd be about finding a partner who matched me politically. And I'm content with being without a serious relationship for a long time, if it comes to that.
I hope that made sense and wasn't too boring and long-winded :)
Of course, it's entirely possible that I'll fall in love and none of those things will be important to me anymore. That's certainly something which could happen. I hope not, but what I hope I want in the future and what I actually will want in the future might turn out to be different things.
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Yes, I definitely would date them and I'd definitely have a proper relationship with them. I'm an atheist, but I actually find faith quite attractive so long as it's free, measured and realistic. Obviously I'd require them to be respectful, but I don't see that as a distinguishing point since I'd require that of an atheist too; I can't stand people who can't respect others (my ex was very intolerant of religious people, and it was really embarrassing for me when she talked about it in public).
Politics is a much bigger sticking point than religion.
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Hmm! Fascinating. I'm sorry to hear that about your ex.
Where do you draw the line for politically beliefs that are too different for a relationship?
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Haha, she was shitty in a lot of ways. Being an asshole to my religious friends was the least of it :P
Some people have religion as the central point of their life, about which all their principles are drawn. I have politics as the central point of my life, and my principles are drawn from that. I'm a very politically interested person. My central goal in life is to find a way to live which supports my principles. Gandhi said "Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony", and I truly believe that.
That means that if we're just dating (i.e. hanging out together, having fun, learning together) her politics doesn't bother me, because her broader lifestyle need not interfere with mine. But if we're having a really serious relationship (i.e. one with a view to be living together and supporting each other) it would be necessary to have a partner who shared my lifestyle to avoid me having to live in a way which doesn't satisfy me. It depends on the seriousness of the relationship. I hope that makes sense :)
At the moment I've not got it all worked out yet with regards to where I want to be in terms of my lifestyle. I know I'm not content with consumerism and big business and hierarchical structure and divided labour, and I know I want to chase anarchy in some shape or form, but I'm still hazy about the details of what I want to accomplish. I am still working towards building enough clarity and specificity in the direction which I want to commit to.
I think that word, "specific", is the answer to the question :) My really serious partner's politics would have to be damn similar to mine, I think. The less serious the relationship, the less strict I'd be about finding a partner who matched me politically. And I'm content with being without a serious relationship for a long time, if it comes to that.
I hope that made sense and wasn't too boring and long-winded :)
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That was fine. A fair point. Thank you for your time :)
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Of course, it's entirely possible that I'll fall in love and none of those things will be important to me anymore. That's certainly something which could happen. I hope not, but what I hope I want in the future and what I actually will want in the future might turn out to be different things.