I'm going to assume that you're talking about Asperger's Syndrome here. Dating someone with full on autism... well... I have worked with people that are fully autistic and to date one (or breed with one) would be pretty sick, as they are normally mentally challenged to the point where a romantic emotional connection would just not be present.
As far as Asperger's though, I have dated a few people that have Asperger's and I think that it is extremely over-diagnosed. I know many people that say that have Asperger's, when really it seemed to be it was just a quick and easy diagnosis fix for someone who has low-self esteem, poor social skills, not-entirely-mainstream interests and is (usually) quite introverted. I'd be careful with the diagnosis of Asperger's if I was a health care professional. You could be naming a perfectly normal person (who just has a few oddities) as mentally challenged, so to speak. I know plenty of very Spock-like logical people that don't have Asperger's. It's not entirely uncommon. We don't all have to be media-hungry, super-social drones.
To answer your question, for people that have Aspergers to the extent that their diagnosis is not debateable, I have dated folks like that and I would not do it again. They were very idealistic in their romance, to the point where it was very childish. They often imitate what they see as acceptable from the TV or media they partake in, and have a hard time seperating that from reality. Their way of thinking, whether it is considered "logical" or not is very black and white and they have a hard time seeing grey. But that's just from what I have noticed. Some "neuro-typical" folks can appreciate that but I find it difficult to nowadays. Great to be friends with, but having a serious relationship with them is... difficult. They also get very upset very easily...
I know i bit about aspergers as well, and it sorta scares me at time the similar tendencies that i share. Im social unlike them, but like what you said about being touchy and how idealistic they are about romance. i can get a lil out of hand at time, and i know it, but cant seem to stop even if im aware of it.
also, every post i read by you is so insightful and well written, haha i feel like i wanna ask you if you could tutor me, or review my homework... well if i was in school, but im not at the moment. =/
Thing about Aspergers, hell, anything in the DSIM, is that if you think about it enough (like Astrology) you'll find that you have a lot in common with many mental disorders. I wouldn't be scared if I were you. Usually, for people with Aspergers that have adults around them with half a brain cell or two, it is detected early and easily.
But by idealistic, I would say, many of them put their mates on a pedestal of how they feel is the perfect mate, and they treat their mate in that manner. They have this storybook ideal of romance, because that is the ideal that they learned from their media. They tend to act out their fantasies which gets awkward. Aspergers folks seem to be trapped in their own mind so to speak. They can understand others but it's more of a factual understanding than an actual empathetic understanding. You don't have to be Aspergers to behave like this, though. It's just another check on the big list of AS.
Yeah, I dated a man with Aspergers and even after we broke up we remained friends...sort of... We talk often, but I don't usually get what he means by certain things.
Is it his style of speech or does he speak in metaphors? Asperger's folk are known for having a tendency to speak in metaphors that only they themselves (usually) understand.
I see this is old but I can answer this. If you broke his heart, that means he still likes you so he would want to be around you still, even if not in a relationship because it doesn't make sense when people breakup and they become enemies or not friends over it.
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I'm going to assume that you're talking about Asperger's Syndrome here. Dating someone with full on autism... well... I have worked with people that are fully autistic and to date one (or breed with one) would be pretty sick, as they are normally mentally challenged to the point where a romantic emotional connection would just not be present.
As far as Asperger's though, I have dated a few people that have Asperger's and I think that it is extremely over-diagnosed. I know many people that say that have Asperger's, when really it seemed to be it was just a quick and easy diagnosis fix for someone who has low-self esteem, poor social skills, not-entirely-mainstream interests and is (usually) quite introverted. I'd be careful with the diagnosis of Asperger's if I was a health care professional. You could be naming a perfectly normal person (who just has a few oddities) as mentally challenged, so to speak. I know plenty of very Spock-like logical people that don't have Asperger's. It's not entirely uncommon. We don't all have to be media-hungry, super-social drones.
To answer your question, for people that have Aspergers to the extent that their diagnosis is not debateable, I have dated folks like that and I would not do it again. They were very idealistic in their romance, to the point where it was very childish. They often imitate what they see as acceptable from the TV or media they partake in, and have a hard time seperating that from reality. Their way of thinking, whether it is considered "logical" or not is very black and white and they have a hard time seeing grey. But that's just from what I have noticed. Some "neuro-typical" folks can appreciate that but I find it difficult to nowadays. Great to be friends with, but having a serious relationship with them is... difficult. They also get very upset very easily...
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I know i bit about aspergers as well, and it sorta scares me at time the similar tendencies that i share. Im social unlike them, but like what you said about being touchy and how idealistic they are about romance. i can get a lil out of hand at time, and i know it, but cant seem to stop even if im aware of it.
also, every post i read by you is so insightful and well written, haha i feel like i wanna ask you if you could tutor me, or review my homework... well if i was in school, but im not at the moment. =/
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Thing about Aspergers, hell, anything in the DSIM, is that if you think about it enough (like Astrology) you'll find that you have a lot in common with many mental disorders. I wouldn't be scared if I were you. Usually, for people with Aspergers that have adults around them with half a brain cell or two, it is detected early and easily.
But by idealistic, I would say, many of them put their mates on a pedestal of how they feel is the perfect mate, and they treat their mate in that manner. They have this storybook ideal of romance, because that is the ideal that they learned from their media. They tend to act out their fantasies which gets awkward. Aspergers folks seem to be trapped in their own mind so to speak. They can understand others but it's more of a factual understanding than an actual empathetic understanding. You don't have to be Aspergers to behave like this, though. It's just another check on the big list of AS.
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According to the DSM what I like to do in the bedroom is a mental disorder, hahaha.
Yeah, I dated a man with Aspergers and even after we broke up we remained friends...sort of... We talk often, but I don't usually get what he means by certain things.
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Is it his style of speech or does he speak in metaphors? Asperger's folk are known for having a tendency to speak in metaphors that only they themselves (usually) understand.
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No, its not that. Its just that I "broke his heart", yet he never wants to go without talking tp me.
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I see this is old but I can answer this. If you broke his heart, that means he still likes you so he would want to be around you still, even if not in a relationship because it doesn't make sense when people breakup and they become enemies or not friends over it.
Ah, Just sounds like he is having a hard time getting over you v.v Probably doesn't have the social skills to meet another chick ^^;
Great post totally agree with all of it