I don't see why not. I'd even date someone who was currently cutting if I thought they were able to be helped.
I believe that everyone gets insecure, stressed and feels like they need attention. People who cut themselves to feel more secure, relieve their stress and get attention are no different to me to people who express those universal feelings in less destructive ways. They need to be helped, because self-harm is destructive, but not looked down on or thought of as inferior or even different to anyone else.
I've got two fairly close friends who cut or have cut before, and they're so secretive about it that it's very difficult to stop them. In one case, the school found out, convinced him to see a councillor and his situation is, I think, now much better. In the other, as far as I know she still cuts herself fairly regularly but is so secretive that it's impossible to talk to her about it.
I've always thought it a strange way for society to think that if someone cries out for help, the best thing to do is ignore them. It seems logical to me that if someone cries out for help, and they need help so badly that they'd self-harm to get it, we should give them help, not look down on them, patronise them, make sweeping generalisations about them, label them and ignore them. That is exactly NOT the way to make them better.
Would you date someone who use to be a cutter?
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I don't see why not. I'd even date someone who was currently cutting if I thought they were able to be helped.
I believe that everyone gets insecure, stressed and feels like they need attention. People who cut themselves to feel more secure, relieve their stress and get attention are no different to me to people who express those universal feelings in less destructive ways. They need to be helped, because self-harm is destructive, but not looked down on or thought of as inferior or even different to anyone else.
I've got two fairly close friends who cut or have cut before, and they're so secretive about it that it's very difficult to stop them. In one case, the school found out, convinced him to see a councillor and his situation is, I think, now much better. In the other, as far as I know she still cuts herself fairly regularly but is so secretive that it's impossible to talk to her about it.
I've always thought it a strange way for society to think that if someone cries out for help, the best thing to do is ignore them. It seems logical to me that if someone cries out for help, and they need help so badly that they'd self-harm to get it, we should give them help, not look down on them, patronise them, make sweeping generalisations about them, label them and ignore them. That is exactly NOT the way to make them better.