Would you call her a stalker?

I once dated a girl who continually tried contacting me after our breakup. She would get her friends to contact me on her behalf and text me daily. She would ask mutual friends about my relationship status and hound them for other info like where I had moved to.

Was this stalking?

Is It Normal?
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  • Yes that's stalking and being unhealthily obsessesed with someone.

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  • She isn't normal, her crush on you is very unhealthy.

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  • Normal behaviour for a woman, women often have stronger emotions and are unable to control them.

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    • I dont know why you get downvoted, this is very true.

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  • Not exactly stalking, just an unhealthy obsession. With stalking, there are clear boundaries that get crossed. not a teenage drama queen getting her friends involved. Unless they are parked outside your house with a camera.

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    • She was slightly above the teenage years at the time, but i see what you mean. My only reserve is the part about trying to find out where I lived. That struck me as possible stalking.

      The reason I asked this is because its been almost 10 years and she recently tried to contact me through my mother. She remembered her name and looked her up. Im married now and I wonder what my wife would think if my ex contacted us at home. My mother thankfully didn't give out any info on where im at or what im doing, but im scared my ex will pursue it further.

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      • I didn't realize this was a ten years in the past ex. Yeah, she doesn't sound stable. Just make sure all your social media is private and make sure you tell your wife about the potential unwanted attention she may give you.

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  • I wouldn't call that straight up stalking, but it's definitely stalkerish, and it's the behavior of an obsessed person for sure.

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  • It doesnt sound stalkerish to me. It sounds like a girl that got dumped and still has feelings for you.

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    • I would agree if she wasn't trying to find out where I lived. That was the part that made me feel that I was being stalked.

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  • I had a bird do this to me, it just pissed me off.

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    • Hahahahaha yeah? You had an actual woman follow you around? I find that hard to believe, unless it was the mum of one of the Taiwanese 11 year olds you naughty touched? Or maybe you mean an actual bird? That would make way more sense since you're a crusty old cracker that somehow still smells of yeast over the internet.

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  • And you didnt fucked her? she was clearly wanting something else.

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  • I won't call that stalking. That bitch is definitely persistent tho. Careful of hoes like those. They'll steal da semen out yo sock and try get pregnant

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  • Meh, idk. I think this is one of those things that you can only define for yourself. It's up to you to decide if you felt violated or uncomfortable. Her behavior is definitely inappropriate & unhealthy.

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