Would you be ok with entering a relationship with a trans woman?

As a girl, would you be fine with entering a relationship with a trans woman in the process of transitioning (from male), and if you are, would you help him?

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Yes 8
Yes, and i'd help him 9
I'd probably dump him afterwards 4
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  • Cuntsiclestick

    I'm not really sure if I'd be okay with helping them. It probably costs a lot and I wouldn't be able to help them pay for it. If I could and we won't be left in debt afterwards, then yes, I'd stay.

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    • redrainbow22

      Why? why are people so for helping a person mutilate their bodies?

      why cant we support them mentally instead? and try to get them help

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      • Trying to fix it that way doesn't really work and has more dangerous results. It's like depression. Medication may muffle the symptoms, but it won't get rid of the underlying cause. Also it's not mutilation. It's at most surgery.
        I mean, I sort of get it. It's like the person in the mirror isn't them and they either have to alter the person in the mirror so they feel more like themselves or change who they are in their minds. It's so much easier to change the person in the mirror than it is to change how they think of themselves. You'd basically have to erase yourself just to fix it that way, and even if you could, would you still be you?

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        • redrainbow22

          yea but its replacing something that isnt going to be the same afterwards, replacing it with something fake

          getting rid of your bodies natural functions

          you can still try to get them help by going to a psychiatrist or something

          thats the problem though, the easiest route isnt always the best route

          with some trans, trying to change their gender still causes problems for them

          they're should try to be building their self-esteems and shouldnt feel like they want to change in the first place

          no, you just have to stop feeling like you're the opposite gender, and face reality when your not

          i think its more of a hormonal problem with some trans girls

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          • You do realize how hormones, biology, and prenatal formation work, right? Calling them "fake" isn't any more accurate than calling you or i "real". To be honest, I don't think there is a psychiatric solution here. You can medicate the hell out of a person until they just sit there and stare, but it doesn't fix them. It doesn't make them happy. You can't make someone happy with drugs or hormones or surgeries and therapy. You don't just stop feeling sad or angry or happy by willing it to be. You can only help them be happy with themselves, and that's a choice they have to make.

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            • redrainbow22

              i was talking about replacing the genitals

              its not real if it doesnt function correctly completely

              its artificial

              but the psychologist (sorry wrong term) does know some things and might really be able to help them! there has to be tricks of the brain that can help

              and thats why the psychologist can try to make them happy!
              thats their job. they're supposed to be able to do stuff like this

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  • redrainbow22

    Why would you want to help convert your boyfriend into a girl? Thats just means your lesbian

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    • I don't know, I think he'd be kind of cute.

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      • redrainbow22

        If your bisexual or a lesbian.

        But if your straight, obviously your not gonna want that

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        • But at the same time i'm not really all that into women. I could definitely get used to it if i wanted to, but i'm not sure i do. And I don't want to leave him either...

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          • redrainbow22

            you shouldnt, you shouldnt have to be stuck with a female if you dont want to

            breaking up the relationship would be the best at that point

            guys are tricked into relationships with trans girls too, but they leave the relationship cause later they find out they were tricked

            its not right to not be honest about it in the beginning if you know the person your dating is straight

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  • Tealights

    If I were bisexual, sure! However I'm heterosexual, so I'll just be that supportive friend.

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    • redrainbow22

      you shouldnt support helping him chopping his thing off

      we shouldnt be destroying our bodies

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      • Tealights

        I can't tell him what to do with his body.

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        • redrainbow22

          well you cant force him

          but you can try to persuade him out of it

          im just saying, you shouldnt encourage him to have surgery

          you shouldnt be like "Yes! Please remove your penis for me!"

          some trans people are not mentally fit

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          • I'm not encouraging anything.

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            • redrainbow22

              no i was talking to tealights

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          • Tealights

            I'm neither a psychologist nor do I have the right to make such deicions for another.

            Sounds like all this is coming from a personal place, if you have a trans friend/aqquaintance/whatever and think he's mentally ill because of it, then just tell him. I'm not you, nor do I share your thoughts on the situation.

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            • redrainbow22

              I just hope you have the confidence to draw the line somewhere.

              We cant just be accepting of everything.

              You do have the right to form your own opinion on this. you dont have to be a psychologist to know that some of these people are mentally ill

              i know a girl who wants to become a boy. i love her, shes a good friend but she isnt speaking to me anymore, because i told her id rather have her stick as a girl than be a boy

              she is very sensitive. why do you think the suicide rate is so high in the trans community? its because these people are not healthy.

              its unfortunate, i want them to be, but they just arent

              you have to face the truth about this. we all do

              we cant just accept anything that comes along. would you be willing to accept someone who wanted to screw a animal?

              it might be tough because we dont want to hurt anyone by saying no to them, but we have to

              of course we can still be nice to them, we just cant see this as normal

              its not

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  • BlackCatsAreAwesome

    I wouldn't stay. Sorry.

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  • shade_ilmaendu

    I probably wouldn't, but that's only because I'm not terribly attracted to women. If I were more bi than I am I absolutely would.

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  • If my partner wanted to transition I'd have to be convinced it's what they want. If it genuinely is what they wanted I'd help her with it but I can't say I'd stay in the relationship.

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