If you punish her, she will continue. Don't punish her. What you should do is first, check your parenting. (Not implying you're a bad parent, but in today's world, it's very hard to make time to fully support a teenage girl.) Make sure she knows she can talk to you- if she isn't open with you, it's because she's afraid. If she's afraid, it's because she knows her honesty will result in punishment or judgement. Demonstrate to her that she CAN tell you anything by just listening, comforting and advising- even if you don't like what you hear. Explain WHY certain decisions are better than others. This girl obviously has self-esteem issues. See about getting her to a female counselor (a good one, a "hip" one) and maybe getting her involved in some women's activities, i.e. a women's sports team or a volunteer service that promotes strength and self-respect in teenage girls. Seeing other strong women and girls will definitely cause her to look at herself. Also, remember that she's a teenager and she has sexuality. She just DOES. Since this is unavoidable, maybe her mother could sit down and talk to her about healthier ways to relieve sexual tension. (If this is too awkward, maybe the counselor could talk to her about it instead.) If she should need anything to help with that, maybe mom could take her shopping. I know plenty of VERY healthy, confident, strong teenage girls who went "adult woman shopping" with mom. As bad as it may seem to think about your teenage daughter using an adult item, it would be good to know that she's taking care of those urges in private, rather than airing her naked ass all over the place. Hope this didn't sound too harsh, and I hope it helps. Good luck!
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If you punish her, she will continue. Don't punish her. What you should do is first, check your parenting. (Not implying you're a bad parent, but in today's world, it's very hard to make time to fully support a teenage girl.) Make sure she knows she can talk to you- if she isn't open with you, it's because she's afraid. If she's afraid, it's because she knows her honesty will result in punishment or judgement. Demonstrate to her that she CAN tell you anything by just listening, comforting and advising- even if you don't like what you hear. Explain WHY certain decisions are better than others. This girl obviously has self-esteem issues. See about getting her to a female counselor (a good one, a "hip" one) and maybe getting her involved in some women's activities, i.e. a women's sports team or a volunteer service that promotes strength and self-respect in teenage girls. Seeing other strong women and girls will definitely cause her to look at herself. Also, remember that she's a teenager and she has sexuality. She just DOES. Since this is unavoidable, maybe her mother could sit down and talk to her about healthier ways to relieve sexual tension. (If this is too awkward, maybe the counselor could talk to her about it instead.) If she should need anything to help with that, maybe mom could take her shopping. I know plenty of VERY healthy, confident, strong teenage girls who went "adult woman shopping" with mom. As bad as it may seem to think about your teenage daughter using an adult item, it would be good to know that she's taking care of those urges in private, rather than airing her naked ass all over the place. Hope this didn't sound too harsh, and I hope it helps. Good luck!