It's happened to me too. It would result in me looking back at the conversation over and over and figuring out what things I may have said or did to have made them think that. After figuring it out, I'd try to fix that problem and get better. Self evaluation has helped me become less of a weirdo over the years. XD
Also, I'm sick of not coming across as "hot or attractive or simply cool and chill". I tried really hard to make a good first impression that day towards them both. Yet I felt I had the oppsite effect. I also thought her partner was either jealous or saw me as a threat due to her not accepting my Facebook request and accepting most the other newbies on her page. Along with her not liking things I posted in the small group, and ignoring a comment I tagged her in but then I found out she never accepted this other new chicks Facebook request either. She also left not long into the night, with being at the club with the other friends, and left me alone with one other person and her gf. Obviously she doesnt see me as a threat or wouldnt have left her alone in the club with me. I feel more hurt and would rather her have been jealous so I know I did come across as attractive and confident. Ugh why do my attempts always back fire on me? Am I just born this way?
Yeah, I've been there with not making eye contact, mushing up words, and trying to keep conversation. I've been practicing being social on the customers at my job lately. Before that, I was practicing on strangers at malls and meet up groups(dating sites too, but the men and women on there are batshit insane, so I'm not counting that at this point). A bunch of these attempts ended in failure. Some of the reasons were my fault, other times it was because I wasn't compatible with the other person, or it was their fault. Perhaps you should keep going to social events? They're the best opportunities to practice and meet others. I don't think you're born unlucky in love. You just have to keep trying and try to have more patience. As long as you're not desperate, bitter, clingy, or a criminal, you're definitely capable of finding someone. For some people finding someone takes more time than others. I didn't find someone until I was like 26.
Awh ahah really, good on you!! Well ya know I had bad anxiety cause i also find her super attractive so I almost found it hard to speak but make myself. It's like I sometimes forget how to put words together and the eye contact, well let's just say I dart my eyes all over the place. If we are talking among cuple others I'm still as nervous as she is there, and I feel her looking at me. Unfortunately ofc me trying to make a good impression back fires on me and I practically self sabotage the situation. Also, side note, it were just a few days prior, online I sent her a LGBT link asking if she had tried this site for counselling. That's why in person she asked me if I was struggling and we got along the lines of anxiety and her thinking it could relate to autism even though she has anxiety herself lmao
Would u be offended if someone asked if you had autism?
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It's happened to me too. It would result in me looking back at the conversation over and over and figuring out what things I may have said or did to have made them think that. After figuring it out, I'd try to fix that problem and get better. Self evaluation has helped me become less of a weirdo over the years. XD
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Also, I'm sick of not coming across as "hot or attractive or simply cool and chill". I tried really hard to make a good first impression that day towards them both. Yet I felt I had the oppsite effect. I also thought her partner was either jealous or saw me as a threat due to her not accepting my Facebook request and accepting most the other newbies on her page. Along with her not liking things I posted in the small group, and ignoring a comment I tagged her in but then I found out she never accepted this other new chicks Facebook request either. She also left not long into the night, with being at the club with the other friends, and left me alone with one other person and her gf. Obviously she doesnt see me as a threat or wouldnt have left her alone in the club with me. I feel more hurt and would rather her have been jealous so I know I did come across as attractive and confident. Ugh why do my attempts always back fire on me? Am I just born this way?
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Yeah, I've been there with not making eye contact, mushing up words, and trying to keep conversation. I've been practicing being social on the customers at my job lately. Before that, I was practicing on strangers at malls and meet up groups(dating sites too, but the men and women on there are batshit insane, so I'm not counting that at this point). A bunch of these attempts ended in failure. Some of the reasons were my fault, other times it was because I wasn't compatible with the other person, or it was their fault. Perhaps you should keep going to social events? They're the best opportunities to practice and meet others. I don't think you're born unlucky in love. You just have to keep trying and try to have more patience. As long as you're not desperate, bitter, clingy, or a criminal, you're definitely capable of finding someone. For some people finding someone takes more time than others. I didn't find someone until I was like 26.
Awh ahah really, good on you!! Well ya know I had bad anxiety cause i also find her super attractive so I almost found it hard to speak but make myself. It's like I sometimes forget how to put words together and the eye contact, well let's just say I dart my eyes all over the place. If we are talking among cuple others I'm still as nervous as she is there, and I feel her looking at me. Unfortunately ofc me trying to make a good impression back fires on me and I practically self sabotage the situation. Also, side note, it were just a few days prior, online I sent her a LGBT link asking if she had tried this site for counselling. That's why in person she asked me if I was struggling and we got along the lines of anxiety and her thinking it could relate to autism even though she has anxiety herself lmao