Would all men see me that way?

Okay, I'm not going to challenge her on the "he saw me as completely incapable", only because I don't know either of them so that may, or may not be true. However, on what OP's comment,"he was impressed when I struggled to lift 10 lbs", I will have to concede, and say, touché to you! You got me on that one, because I can't imagine someone being unable, or even struggling to lift 10 lbs outside of a serious medical condition. My cat weighs about 10 lbs, and I'm relatively sure that there are tiny children who can pick up a 10 lb cat.

I do want to add that I seriously think that OP needs to start working out with weights at the gym, and check out a self defense class, it certainly can't hurt.