Would all men see me that way?

Jesus flipping Christ! How long did you stay with that creepy, manipulative guy?

However long it lasted, you can at least be proud that you resisted his attempts to program you to play the helpless little victim. And that is what he was doing: constantly feeding you suggestions in an attempt to hypnotise you into believing you were a pathetic person who had to rely on him. I don't know if it was something he did instinctively or some some NLP BS, but I am sure getting away from him was a positive step.

The thing about him not wanting you to spend any time with friends was an enormous red flag, by the way. Separating a woman from her preexisting support network is the classic first step for a man who's a highly manipulative control freak.

Given what you say about your stature, I suspect you will probably always attract men who want to treat you like a precious, helpless little person because that makes them feel good about themselves. You might also attract the attention of real scuzzbags who are secretly sexually attracted to young teen girls. But I'd like to believe that there are guys out there who will mainly see you as the person you are, rather than primarily as a woman who's smaller than average.