Eerily enough, a lot of guys don't see anything wrong with this behavior. They think girls should appreciate guys finding their lack of anything due to their physiology adorable, as though it were a compliment. Sadly, it becomes borderline condescending after a while, even though he probably didn't meant it in that way. Sadly, it's not limited to height, but personality as well; so if you're inexperience in certain areas, prepare for "compliments" such as, "You're so pure," or "I find it cute you haven't done..." As well as them rolling their eyes or chuckling when you fail at doing something for the 1st time that they are well-versed in. But god forbid if you tell them they're cute, or laugh when they try something for the 1st time and fail, then you're considered a bitch.
It's just something you have to weed through on your way to finding a decent partner. Like us women, men share habits that they generally all do, and this is one of them. It's not bad because some girls like that baby talk and being treated as a little girl thing sexy/attractive or they believe in rigid gender roles; but just like you, I'm not into that nonsense.
I'm somewhat of a traditionalist. I find those qualities to be highly sought after. The OP just needs to find a guy that is within her tastes unfortunately that may take a few years because guys take a while to mature.
It's icky to me, because he sort of treats her like a house cat and not as a person. You can find someone adorable without making them feel like a helpless pet. Then the whole "You can't see your friends/go to work because I think you're easily influenced"? That's owner/pet logic. I don't let my cats leave the house cause they're going to get lost or taken by someone else, and I find their helplessness/cat like behavior and appearance adorable.
Truly that's not tradition unless you're referring to the darkest parts of history.
The pet part is creepy. Never got that form of thinking. I dont find the not being able to do things so I'll take the mantle kinda enduring of course this would deteriorate the relationship if he didnt allow for some tasks to be done. But I don't think that would happen I think he would just get more mature and let her have some more say in the matter. Of course it's still up to her.
Would all men see me that way?
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Not all men, but most.
Eerily enough, a lot of guys don't see anything wrong with this behavior. They think girls should appreciate guys finding their lack of anything due to their physiology adorable, as though it were a compliment. Sadly, it becomes borderline condescending after a while, even though he probably didn't meant it in that way. Sadly, it's not limited to height, but personality as well; so if you're inexperience in certain areas, prepare for "compliments" such as, "You're so pure," or "I find it cute you haven't done..." As well as them rolling their eyes or chuckling when you fail at doing something for the 1st time that they are well-versed in. But god forbid if you tell them they're cute, or laugh when they try something for the 1st time and fail, then you're considered a bitch.
It's just something you have to weed through on your way to finding a decent partner. Like us women, men share habits that they generally all do, and this is one of them. It's not bad because some girls like that baby talk and being treated as a little girl thing sexy/attractive or they believe in rigid gender roles; but just like you, I'm not into that nonsense.
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I'm somewhat of a traditionalist. I find those qualities to be highly sought after. The OP just needs to find a guy that is within her tastes unfortunately that may take a few years because guys take a while to mature.
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It's icky to me, because he sort of treats her like a house cat and not as a person. You can find someone adorable without making them feel like a helpless pet. Then the whole "You can't see your friends/go to work because I think you're easily influenced"? That's owner/pet logic. I don't let my cats leave the house cause they're going to get lost or taken by someone else, and I find their helplessness/cat like behavior and appearance adorable.
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The pet part is creepy. Never got that form of thinking. I dont find the not being able to do things so I'll take the mantle kinda enduring of course this would deteriorate the relationship if he didnt allow for some tasks to be done. But I don't think that would happen I think he would just get more mature and let her have some more say in the matter. Of course it's still up to her.
What qualities specifically do you find to be highly sought after?