Would a straight guy ever ask another straight guy for a massage ?

My guy friend asked me if I was bi, unsure about where he was going with this I said no and I asked him if he was bi and he said no . But I’ve gotten some vibes from him and I too have been hit on a couple of times in my life by guys and I was checked out by a guy once and I mean it was really obvious that he held his stare for way too long so maybe I give off those vibes sometimes? What do you think ? I asked my best friend who is Christian married and has a family and we both agreed we never ask each other for a massage ever ever ever ..

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  • You're both gay.

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  • Best massage i ever got was from a guy, im not sure if he was straight or not. Second best was from a gay guy and the end was very happy for both of us.

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  • Not in America. Guys would never do that

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  • The massage thing would be kind of unusual, but the fact that he asked if you were gay prior to asking for a massage makes me think that he was definitely making a move

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  • Good call, 5 mins was key.

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  • Only guy I've massaged was my father. He would come home with a sore back from his office job and ask me to rub it out. If a colleague or friend asked me to massage them I'll tell them hell no.

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  • Yet another insecure "straight" man with a frail sense of masculinity. So many men are so hung up. It's tragic. I'm gay and if a woman friend wanted to give me a massage I'd say hell yeah if she was good at it. It wouldn't say anything about me as a person, about my sexuality or about my masculinity.

    If that person is really a friend and knows me well then they aren't going to be making moves on me. The only reason I can see that you would discuss this with your christian friend and come to a decision of "never ever ever" is because you are insecure in your sexuality and don't trust yourself. If you're straight you're straight. No amount of massage can change that.

    If I was in that situation and the masseur/masseuse did something inappropriate I would reach out grab their hand and stop them. I would say "please don't do that, I'm not interested". It would probably make me feel awkward around them in the future though.

    If you're secure in your sexuality and masculinity you would not even be worrying about this in the first place. The worst thing to do is ask advise from a Christian. They are the most hung up of all.

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    • I’m sorry if I seemed misandrist, I explored my sexuality after that day and decided I wouldn’t be ashamed or try to hide it if I like someone for who they are I should be proud of that and that’s all that matters . Heres the question since you have experience in this and I’m gonna post this on the board seperately too but your reply was very on point so if you don’t mind I want your opinion . I told my mom that I really liked this guy and that I enjoyed putting my hands on him and hearing his sounds and really wanted to make a move, he’s very charming, as so am I, I think..anyway, she was disgusted. Then I learned what clubware was and fell in love with the fashion and how they make me feel when I wear such things as I ordered these nice gold metallic booty shorts and she saw I was wearing them under my normal clothes and looked at her girlfriend she’s been with for 20 years like she’d seen me fly over the cookoo’s nest! Yes she is a butch lesbian but was married to the man she first fell in love with before that. Why would she be such a hypocrite it actually hurt my feelings a little bit but I don’t really care what she thinks and I embraced it I told her they were really really short LOL LOL and I make little gay remarks here and there just to see how she reacts for my amusement since she thinks it’s so gross. I think guys are attractive But was always too scared. This guy is more gangster than me too and 6 years younger than me so idk it’s really hot? What’s the deal with my mom you think? Her girlfriend looked surprised to see me in the shorts but not in a negative light. I can’t wait for your reply but yeah he hasn’t come around since and btw we watched our favorite porn stars that night when we were all alone.. I’ll never know why he shot me down. I’m really into tarot cards and the first draw card said love in the keywords so I told him I’d never been with another guy but I would with him and he gave me a hug and said we were still cool. ?????????? Thanks

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    • Thank you for your reply! I really enjoyed it a bit too much probably more than he did but I got shot down after all that lol

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  • I mean it sounds like your friend is bi, but because of many things he said such asking if you are bi and what not. I don't think its a big deal to give your straight guy friend a massage though nor does that immediately mean you are gay if you ask that, however in this case id put my money on yes the man is bi/gay and likes you.

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  • If he is asking if your bi, I see that as a red flag that he might want to get frisky with you. I mean, why else would he want to know? As far as a massage goes, I am a straight guy and I would say hell no to any guy who wanted to massage me. But that's just me mate.

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  • Thanks for taking your time to answer this because I’m really confused no pun intended. Btw, I did for like 5 min & he said he felt better, & he asked me not to tell anyone

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    • you know, a guy giving another guy a massage isn't weird, especially if one is a professional. Even in this case it's more like a favor (maybe he was just sore), it's not like jerking someone off. He might have asked you to not tell anyone just so no one would get a wrong idea. You really shouldn't think that much about it.

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  • Just tell him no, thank you.

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