Women what do you normally do when husband has a groin injury

It was an accident. He needs to be a man and get over it. I'd apologise, ask him what he would have liked you to do. Take his response to heart and then let him sulk like a baby until he gets over it. Again, it was an accident. Don't let him hold this over your head for the rest of your life. If he does, knee him in the balls again....

I think he is overreacting just a bit. Its not like he was a few seconds from death. You really couldnt do a whole lot to help him in the moment. Ruining a marriage over THAT? Its stupid!

This isn't a marriage problem, this is just pathetic. This is merely a problem caused through poor communication in the relationship, nothing more.

Hello,

It is likely, you are being a tad hard on yourself. You mentioned, "We haven't been married long & I thinkk he is worried I'll think less of him for seeming so weak.Something like that.". Yes, this is HIGHLY probable. You mentioned "He's quite a macho sort of man in a nice way.". I am wed to the same kind of lad! Additionally, I have eleven years on my hubby. I know, 'I know', but I just could not stop myself.(giggle)

You should go with your instincts. BTW, my hubby and I used to do the "playful wrestling & fooling around session" thing. Usually, I would pretend not to be 'in the mood'. Hubby would 'press' the issue. I kind of like to be 'conquered". That is, to just be 'taken'. It gets me so 'hot'. (blush!) However, we had to stop.

Mainly, because of the kind of incident you described. Hubby would become excited and employ too much force. That is, he would grip me too tightly and I would have bruises next day. For my part, I would become too 'excited' and my natural competitiveness, would kick in. I would forget to be careful. That is, I would not mind where my; elbows, knees, and feet would finish up! Three times, I injured the 'crown jewels! The last time, hubby needed medical attention.

Yes, this is a v-e-r-y vulnerable area for lads; physically, emotionally, sexually, and socially. Indeed, a great deal of mothering is in order. However (given time) this should blow over in due course. That is, provided there are not other issues under the surface. Best wishes!

Couples counselling, but he might not agree to that.

I think your wife is a very lucky woman. If it had been me I would have severely damaged her and when she is rolling on the floor in agony she will then begin to appreciate what is, in fact, the worst pain a man can experience. Some women leave stupid comments like, "man-up" etc. Obviously, they are lacking in either brain cells or compassion or most probably both.

I thought this was serious, if it's threatening your marriage work on the more serious problems.

Blow.

I was hovered over him with one of my hands on his shoulder. I was in shock too. Those words r the only words I said. I don't think cupping my mans balls crossed my mind. I'm sure that would be the last thing he would want me to touch at the time. It's sad that a man thinks he always has to be a hardass wen it it comes to situations like this. U did nothing wrong stop feeling so guilty. I really think u should Talk to him about It. Try tickling him try to provoke another play fight let him let him overpower you, some guys like that or they feel like they have to b the stronger one especially wen it comes to girls. I don't mind this only if it's in a playing around kinda way. I'm sure he'll get over it soon. His ego was just probably hurtin alittle cuz of the little show after the incident. I
Think he wanted to blame u so it didn't make him feel as bad. I'm glad to hear that it's getting better. Like I said though I still think u 2 need to sit and talk about it.

Thanks everyone for your comments.I feel a bit less of a freak now.Interested in your comments Beautiful baller.As they dealt with what you did at the time.The hovering around & ''aw babe are you ok'' I think I probably should have done more of that thoughin my case there was no lahing with the crying ,I think he was in far too much pain.
Did you cuddle him at all.Stroke him.Perhaps try to cup his balls for him.I'm sort of thinking I should have done more of that.Mothered him more
I,m also thinking its to do with strong silent type attitude.I think he feels ashamed & humiliated or something that he couldn't tough out the pain & was so helpless & agonized in front of me.We haven't been married long & I thinkk he is worried I'll think less of him for seeming so weak.Something like that.
A friend told me she felt quite sorry for guys having to seem tough when they'got balls
I don't know what you think about this.
On a happier note things are much better with us now though we haven't talked about the accident & haven't wrestled again wich is sad as I like it.

Me and my husband play wrestle all the time lol. I did the same thing. He was in a fetal position on the floor crying and laughing at the same time. I was hovered over him saying awww baby u ok. And all he could say was awww baby back lol. It wasn't funny at the time but we both laugh now. We still wrestle but we r a little more carefull. Ur Hubby is overreacting. He needs to get over it. It's pretty sad that ur marriage is being threatened over that. U 2 need to sit down and discuss wats really goin on. Ask him if there's anyway u can make it up to him! *wink wink*

It's not normal for him to leave a marriage because of one incident. There is something more than he's telling you. He may not even know what it is. But if he loves you so little that he can't look past that one incident then he isn't worth it.

No man is surprised by the pain getting kicked in the balls creates. They are hardwires with the sensation in their psyche so they can avoid it at all costs. Men also pinch and catch their own testicles between their legs and most have been hit playing sports or goofing around anyway. He's fine, his balls are just sore.

You described, in depth, how he reacted and what he did, but you didn't described what you did exactly. You only wrote: "I tried to help him but nothing I did seemed any good."
So, how did you try to help him?

Have you asked him, "what should I have done instead?" I don't think what you did was abnormal at all. Did you just freeze in your guilt? If so, its perfectly natural.

I would say that if he really can't get past this, might as well let him blow off steam and let him come to you in time. He is (whether intentionally or not) trying to make you feel as sorry as humanly possible by withdrawing. It is just very childish of him, since its not like you actually tried to kick him.

My advice is to let it blow over, after asking him what he would have done. He should realize theres a lot worse things in life than a wife that was so distraught she didn't know what to do.
Best of luck