I assume you're dating girls in your same age range, which is the early 20s. Many people are still going through an "extended adolescence" at that age; still uncertain of who they are and where they're going in terms of school, work, friends, relationships, living arrangements, and so forth.
I really know of no magic formula for guaranteeing sincerity in relationships with the opposite sex. Most people hardly know their own hearts and minds, let alone how to effectively interact with another human being. This is why it's generally a good idea to let relationships evolve slowly over time, and in the course of knowing one another over a common interest, rather than getting together in an artificial setting like a dating club, where the emphasis is purely on making a "match."
I'm not familiar with the book that normal_guy recommends, but it might be worth a look. Meanwhile, I'd try to have a forgiving attitude towards the women who rejected you. Think of their initial interest in you as you would if they had seen something in a store that caught their eye that they wanted to purchase. They came into the store, took a closer look, checked the price, and decided against the purchase after receiving the additional information. This doesn't devalue you in the least, in my opinion. Perhaps they only had so much available in "emotional reserves" to expend and felt that they could not meet your requirements.
I do have some empathy for your situation, remembering my own college years and the long gaps between good relationships. Most of the men who approached me, in fact, were invariably trying to coax me into joining the local Scientology chapters, and it used to infuriate me ;-) I really do wish you good luck on this.
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I assume you're dating girls in your same age range, which is the early 20s. Many people are still going through an "extended adolescence" at that age; still uncertain of who they are and where they're going in terms of school, work, friends, relationships, living arrangements, and so forth.
I really know of no magic formula for guaranteeing sincerity in relationships with the opposite sex. Most people hardly know their own hearts and minds, let alone how to effectively interact with another human being. This is why it's generally a good idea to let relationships evolve slowly over time, and in the course of knowing one another over a common interest, rather than getting together in an artificial setting like a dating club, where the emphasis is purely on making a "match."
I'm not familiar with the book that normal_guy recommends, but it might be worth a look. Meanwhile, I'd try to have a forgiving attitude towards the women who rejected you. Think of their initial interest in you as you would if they had seen something in a store that caught their eye that they wanted to purchase. They came into the store, took a closer look, checked the price, and decided against the purchase after receiving the additional information. This doesn't devalue you in the least, in my opinion. Perhaps they only had so much available in "emotional reserves" to expend and felt that they could not meet your requirements.
I do have some empathy for your situation, remembering my own college years and the long gaps between good relationships. Most of the men who approached me, in fact, were invariably trying to coax me into joining the local Scientology chapters, and it used to infuriate me ;-) I really do wish you good luck on this.