Women love useless men

I am in my 40s now and still single all the relationships i have had have ended in the woman taking off with some other man who's turned out to be useless the only thing i did in common with them all was treat them well yet it seams women don't want this.I have countless female friends who are always complaining that their blokes are useless and just sit and watch TV all day i have one friend whose house is literally falling apart as her man wont do anything yet they always say but i love him.Am i normal because i long for a woman and a nice house to take care of should i change my ways and start treating them badly whats the matter with you ladies out there or maybe i am missing something here: a faint heart never won a fare lady ;maybe that should be :a decent guy never wins period

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  • nikoleman

    that's because the kind of womans that dumped you say one thing but act completely differently. They are like pidgeons i would say. You are probably an insecure guy like i was a couple of years ago, i still am but not as much. You always have to maintain a girl with a rush in the beginning steps of a relationship. That's almost mathematical it's the only thing i could say you need for sure. For instance if you are treating them kindly and they seem to be fed up of it just cut the flow and start acting the opposite or lose interested. They will wonder why and if they ask you just speak your mind, BECAUSE I TREAT YOU KINDLY AND YOU SEEM TO BE TOO GOOD FOR THAT TOO. You have to get angry also, if you maintain your goodness all the time there is no challenge, remember that to appreciate good things we need bad things. In this case for the girls you've been seeing you need to be nice when you have to, and when you feel you don't have too just be yourself and bark at them if necessary. IF they are with you in a relationship it's for something, they won't leave you for you being angry or cursing at them oen day. The kind of girls that dumped you are the kind of girls that want that.

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  • Caryopteris

    You might just want to get a style change. Work out, get a better haircut, update your clothes. Walk with a confident posture and use a deeper voice. Voila.

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  • ikhnaton

    Treat 'em mean, keep 'em keen; no good deed goes unpunished etc. All truisms. Best philosophy is to bed women early in a relationship and REALLY know how to bed her EXTREMELY WELL - then she may appreciate your "nice" qualities!!

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  • AziraLevana

    OP: If what you say is true, there's probably something else common to all of those relationships: the TYPE of woman you were with. I bet if you look more closely, you'll see a pattern in them. There's probably something they all have in common. Could it be that they had shitty fathers/past partners and subconciously don't believe they deserve happiness, or don't know how to be in a healthy relationship, and so when you treat them well, they don't know what to do? Is it possible that you subconsciously seek out women who need to be cared for, but women who need to be cared for are that way because there is damage - and when there's damage, they leave because they don't know how to handle normality? If so, no wonder you're stuck in this cycle.

    The only one you can change is you. If you need to be needed, you'll probably attract women who are emotionally injured. So work on yourself. Take a brutally honest self-evaluation and see what you'd like to improve. There's something you're not seeing, but I bet that once you focus on self-improvement, a better woman will come along, because she will see and sense that you're trying to be a better person. You'll attract someone who knows how she deserves to be treated, instead of one who eventually takes off with a loser.

    I also agree with someone else's comment that men who try too hard are really off-putting, so just relax and be yourself. A healthy woman knows when you're not, so don't be afraid to be YOU, instead of trying to anticipate what you think she wants. :)

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  • sindri

    Women are a waste of time,chaos on the other hand...is everything!

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  • holio

    Being nice in an effort to get a woman's affection is a losing strategy. How many times must you burn your hand before you stop touching the stove. Focus on your purpose in life and being the best guy you can be, for you, and you'll have more female attention than you can handle.

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  • stone_love

    As a woman, I don't know why some women can fall in love with useless men. However I know I get really turned off if a guy is trying too hard to be super helpful or something. I do think it's harder for genuinely nice guys to find girls romantically interested, unfortunately.

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    • johneybgood

      thanks stone-love interesting comments i will certainly take them on board maybe i am trying to hard.

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  • beautiful_ndn

    I think maybe you should be with a women who had a previously shitty relationship.. I think they would find you a breath of fresh air. If you are as you say you are!

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  • Skitzo1

    Haha, men do what men want. Me?
    Im just your casual Handy Man, fixing chairs, shelves, hangers, doors, beds. It doesn't require any training, just common sense. What a bunch of lazy people hahahahaha.

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    • peterr

      Yes, you can suck my cock for starters.

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  • tomga1

    maybe you're just a bitch?

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  • LunaLaFortuna

    no, that's not true. A decent guy wins every time! What you probably lack is confidence (women sense this, I've left wonderful men over this issue - it killed every feeling I had for them!) You need to get out there and get a hobby, play and sport, hang out with male friends, get busy, have your own life, your job, whatever that is. Do not put all your time and energy and feelings into one woman (or even several, hehe :) but that's another subject :)

    Alfa males have a strong sense of self worth and self respect and have boundaries which is what makes women want them but they are also kind, generous and fair and treat women with respect. This is the winning combination and will make a woman love you with all her heart.

    You are already a good person so all you need is to build a self confidence and love who you are. All the rest will fall into place by default

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