Women have radar with nervous guys

Whenever I feel nervous about how a woman will respond to me when I talk to them, they always seem a little weirded out by me. When I talk to a woman during a moment when I'm not caring how she'll respond, then she's fine. Do alot of women have radar and are able to detect when you're worrying about what she thinks of you? Also, even though I never record myself or can remember later exactly what I said to a woman, I'm guessing that my approach, the way I talk, facial expressions, tone, etc. is coming accross in a less easing way during the moments I'm worrying about how she'll respond to me, and I'm making her feel uneasy. Like I said, they only act uneasy when I'm worrying about it. It can't all be coincidences so I guess when I'm nervous, I'm making them feel nervous.

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  • RoseIsabella

    It's the awkwardness, people feel weirded out when they sense that awkwardness.

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    • Yes, and I think that when you're nervous about how someone will respond to you, you'll often then appear awkward, and they will notice.

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      • RoseIsabella

        Yes, but that's why it's important to detach yourself from outcome. The more you worry about how the person will respond, and the more you fear rejection the worse you will feel, and the more awkward it will be. Try not to get too attached to the your hopes regarding someone you're interested in, but really don't know.

        I don't know if you do this or not, but don't fantasize about someone your into or or idolize that person, because that will only solidify your attachment to whatever response you might get thus making whatever anxiety,and fear of rejection you have worse. Please remember that in the end we're all just people.

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  • requestdatastream

    001gg/ent/pl89

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  • McBean

    Get comfortable in your skin. A search of the topic on YouTube will get you started.

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    • Do you think that people are detecting my nervousness and that's the reason they seem a little more uncomfortable when I'm nervous talking to them verses me being relaxed talking to them? You know how smiles are contagious? Nervousness contagious in the same way?

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      • Not everything's 100% contagious I guess. Smiles are not contagious if you're smiling at someone in a real shitty mood or someone really pissed off, and nervousness is not contagious if you're acting nervous with someone who is deliriously happy, like if they just won $500,000, just got a date with a rich and famous model, or if they''re just totally high on opiates.

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        • McBean

          Dude, you're hypothesizing too much. Get on YouTube tonight.

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          • nikkiclaire

            He is already to self conscious. Trying to change how he comes across will destroy him.

            Just say "I don't give a fuck" reapeatedly throughout the day. Every time a nervous or self conscious thought pops up. "I don't give a fuck".

            It's not just women. Everyone picks up on self conscious behavior through microexpressions. Its a human condition.

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            • I don't know who took away two points from you, but I gave you one back. I like your answer. I'm trying to not give a fuck what people think, it's easier said than done sometimes, but I'm trying. I like the term you used, microexpressions, I should use that word myself since I'm sure it is my bad microexpressions which are making people feel uneasy when I'm nervous. But don't worry, I'm not gonna let anybody's responses on this site destroy me, no matter what they say. It's when I see and talk to people in person when I get nervous sometimes.

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