"3. Don't forget that everyone is weird or awkward to a certain degree and no one is perfect or normal. Everyone makes the same mistakes as you do. Even if that's hard to believe."
Ignore the fact that you're socially awkward and capitalize on your strangeness. Ignore the fact that you make mistakes when speaking to people. They don't know what's going on inside your head so it doesn't matter. If they did then you'd be able to show people the quality of your heart without opening your mouth. Toss yourself out there and get used to that feeling because eventually you'll polish your skill in making CONNECTIONS with people.
Children don't have to do much to make a connection. They see another child and ask, "Do you want to play?" Older people might think themselves as adults but really if you ask someone to, "Play a game" they'll accept that. The hard part is keeping the connections as adults. We're busy, bored, or isolating ourselves in our personal lives so sometimes we feel that getting in touch with people can be hard.
"Hey, wanna ditch this place and do something fun?" Has worked for men all over the world. Listening to cues and giving cues is too much to think about. "I did this fun thing yesterday!"
You'll change based on what your statement. I used to be called weird all the time but "cool". That didn't help my confidence at all for years and still sets off a pissed off ping or two when I hear it now. It's not about denying it but more of showing that you are comfortable about how you perceive yourself. Remember other people are trying to make friendships and connections too so if they see that you're comfortable with your self-image they will be too. (Look in a mirror and see if you like yourself for yourself or recognize the person looking back at you) Nowadays when someone tells me I'm weird I reply, "I come from a different country with a different culture," as well as, "I don't have a problem with that. Do you?" The question makes them double think themselves and I get, "Nah, you're cool."
Initially the people who turn away from you aren't the type of people who want to be near you anyways because they can't accept you. The people who can overlook your awkwardness are the people who will accept you.
If you get shy then mentally kick yourself in the balls to remind you of your role in the world. To reproduce and conquer!
Will I ever make friends being socially awkward?
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"3. Don't forget that everyone is weird or awkward to a certain degree and no one is perfect or normal. Everyone makes the same mistakes as you do. Even if that's hard to believe."
Ignore the fact that you're socially awkward and capitalize on your strangeness. Ignore the fact that you make mistakes when speaking to people. They don't know what's going on inside your head so it doesn't matter. If they did then you'd be able to show people the quality of your heart without opening your mouth. Toss yourself out there and get used to that feeling because eventually you'll polish your skill in making CONNECTIONS with people.
Children don't have to do much to make a connection. They see another child and ask, "Do you want to play?" Older people might think themselves as adults but really if you ask someone to, "Play a game" they'll accept that. The hard part is keeping the connections as adults. We're busy, bored, or isolating ourselves in our personal lives so sometimes we feel that getting in touch with people can be hard.
"Hey, wanna ditch this place and do something fun?" Has worked for men all over the world. Listening to cues and giving cues is too much to think about. "I did this fun thing yesterday!"
You'll change based on what your statement. I used to be called weird all the time but "cool". That didn't help my confidence at all for years and still sets off a pissed off ping or two when I hear it now. It's not about denying it but more of showing that you are comfortable about how you perceive yourself. Remember other people are trying to make friendships and connections too so if they see that you're comfortable with your self-image they will be too. (Look in a mirror and see if you like yourself for yourself or recognize the person looking back at you) Nowadays when someone tells me I'm weird I reply, "I come from a different country with a different culture," as well as, "I don't have a problem with that. Do you?" The question makes them double think themselves and I get, "Nah, you're cool."
Initially the people who turn away from you aren't the type of people who want to be near you anyways because they can't accept you. The people who can overlook your awkwardness are the people who will accept you.
If you get shy then mentally kick yourself in the balls to remind you of your role in the world. To reproduce and conquer!