You can get there but it's going to take time. To keep it short here are a few things you can do.
1. Work on challenging your anxiety, not just in thought or why, but doing the things that you are afraid of. Start of small.
2. Join activities that interest you.
3. Don't forget that everyone is weird or awkward to a certain degree and no one is perfect or normal. Everyone makes the same mistakes as you do. Even if that's hard to believe.
4. Give 0 shits what anyone else thinks unless you are hurting someone. Some of the most confident people are oddballs but attractive nonetheless because they follow their heart.
5. Lasting impressions happen so give up on trying to change peoples minds about you and just change your mind about yourself. There are 9 billion people on this planet and you can always meet more.
Number 1 is hard because you can say I already am doing that and that means going through some humiliating moments but I'm still alive. And number 4, I think thats another problem. I do care a lot about what people think of me but thankfully, I've learned to only care about the ones that matter. Unfortunately, some of them don't deserve me to care but I do. Its really hard to just go on with your day not caring. But I think you can also say I've done that before (not caring) and its also lead me to this point-a loner. I can either care a lot or not care at all what others think of me and they both lead me to being alone. But I get what you're saying, its just gonna take some practice.
Its funny cause the only time in my life that I found it easy to socialize was college. So many chances to go out and there was alcohol. It sounds bad but the parties and drinks made it easier to socialize. Now that that's over, its like back to real life where you have to socialize like a normal human being. I think the best thing to do is go out and meet people along with your advice but first, I have to find people to go out with. Oh the struggle.
Will I ever make friends being socially awkward?
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You can get there but it's going to take time. To keep it short here are a few things you can do.
1. Work on challenging your anxiety, not just in thought or why, but doing the things that you are afraid of. Start of small.
2. Join activities that interest you.
3. Don't forget that everyone is weird or awkward to a certain degree and no one is perfect or normal. Everyone makes the same mistakes as you do. Even if that's hard to believe.
4. Give 0 shits what anyone else thinks unless you are hurting someone. Some of the most confident people are oddballs but attractive nonetheless because they follow their heart.
5. Lasting impressions happen so give up on trying to change peoples minds about you and just change your mind about yourself. There are 9 billion people on this planet and you can always meet more.
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Thanks for this, I really appreciate it.
Number 1 is hard because you can say I already am doing that and that means going through some humiliating moments but I'm still alive. And number 4, I think thats another problem. I do care a lot about what people think of me but thankfully, I've learned to only care about the ones that matter. Unfortunately, some of them don't deserve me to care but I do. Its really hard to just go on with your day not caring. But I think you can also say I've done that before (not caring) and its also lead me to this point-a loner. I can either care a lot or not care at all what others think of me and they both lead me to being alone. But I get what you're saying, its just gonna take some practice.
Its funny cause the only time in my life that I found it easy to socialize was college. So many chances to go out and there was alcohol. It sounds bad but the parties and drinks made it easier to socialize. Now that that's over, its like back to real life where you have to socialize like a normal human being. I think the best thing to do is go out and meet people along with your advice but first, I have to find people to go out with. Oh the struggle.