Forewarn you this will be long: I have been in this situation so bare with me, I know how your feeling... There could be a number of things happening here and the above poster is right you may need therapy to find out, but try this out first. He could be in shock still from having a baby, this is a life changer and he might not have realize all the changes a baby comes with ESPECIALLY in the beginning when no on is sleeping, he could be so preoccupied with adjusting that he has lost some of his desire for now. In addition he might not see you in a sexual manner right now bc (I'm assuming) he just watched you deliver a baby, some men hold a dear respect for that or he cohorts been a little weirded out. Either way he may not see you as a sexual girl right now, he still has the desire since he looks at porn, so try this out have the baby stay at a grandparents house (or trusted friend) and surprise him with a romantic night (whatever that looks like for you two) whether thats cooking him a romantic dinner or a date, something to help bring back the connection. The key is WITHOUT the baby in the house, so he can't use "we'll wake the baby as an excuse". You can really go from there and see what is going on with him. Also he could be feeling neglected lame as it sounds men are sensitive and before the baby I'm sure your world revolved around him. It's not uncommon for men to get jealous when a baby arrives because your whole world revolves around the baby. It's pathetic but again not uncommon (it's again adjusting). So a romantic date can help show that he is special. Are you going through post partum (sorry spelling) or baby blues? Just wondering in case maybe your going through a little depression. Lastly and I hate to even mention this to a new mother, but always listen to your gut, my ex after I had our son cheated on me, he was wonderful and even after I had the baby he was great and spoiled us, but our relationship changed from being free spirited to having responsibility and he coward out. So when our son was 9 months I left. I hate bringing that up bc I knw as a new mom how sensitive you are, and don't just automatically assume that, but don't ignore if there are signs either. Sorry so long but bare with him if he is adjusting to this new adventure of parenthood
why wont he be intimate with me?
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Forewarn you this will be long: I have been in this situation so bare with me, I know how your feeling... There could be a number of things happening here and the above poster is right you may need therapy to find out, but try this out first. He could be in shock still from having a baby, this is a life changer and he might not have realize all the changes a baby comes with ESPECIALLY in the beginning when no on is sleeping, he could be so preoccupied with adjusting that he has lost some of his desire for now. In addition he might not see you in a sexual manner right now bc (I'm assuming) he just watched you deliver a baby, some men hold a dear respect for that or he cohorts been a little weirded out. Either way he may not see you as a sexual girl right now, he still has the desire since he looks at porn, so try this out have the baby stay at a grandparents house (or trusted friend) and surprise him with a romantic night (whatever that looks like for you two) whether thats cooking him a romantic dinner or a date, something to help bring back the connection. The key is WITHOUT the baby in the house, so he can't use "we'll wake the baby as an excuse". You can really go from there and see what is going on with him. Also he could be feeling neglected lame as it sounds men are sensitive and before the baby I'm sure your world revolved around him. It's not uncommon for men to get jealous when a baby arrives because your whole world revolves around the baby. It's pathetic but again not uncommon (it's again adjusting). So a romantic date can help show that he is special. Are you going through post partum (sorry spelling) or baby blues? Just wondering in case maybe your going through a little depression. Lastly and I hate to even mention this to a new mother, but always listen to your gut, my ex after I had our son cheated on me, he was wonderful and even after I had the baby he was great and spoiled us, but our relationship changed from being free spirited to having responsibility and he coward out. So when our son was 9 months I left. I hate bringing that up bc I knw as a new mom how sensitive you are, and don't just automatically assume that, but don't ignore if there are signs either. Sorry so long but bare with him if he is adjusting to this new adventure of parenthood