Why so hard to find a gf?

You’re a gold star pain in the ass.

Seems to me that you are impatient and forcing yourself into a relationship. It's best to keep searching since I bet their are plenty of people out their who feel the same way that you do. All their is left for you to do is to keep your head up and to not lose all hope.

Let’s have a talk, lesbian to lesbian. Most lesbians aren’t interested in one night stands. Obviously that doesn’t apply to all of us (personally I’m a big fan) but you’ll have a lot harder time finding someone to hookup with than if you were straight. But if I’m being honest, you sound pretty desperate and that’s a massive turn off. Also lube isn’t a need for lesbian sex, we make that on our own lmao.

It sounds to me like you are trying way the hell to hard. Back it down about 7 notches. Focus on life and your job or school or whatever you are doing. Just dont focus on that 1 thing.
Hell, try the lingerie on yourself get the lube and put on some Barry White and have a good night all to yourself. Might relieve some tension at least.

As much as we may feel we're ready to be in a relationship, there's often something we're putting out there that drives potential partners away. Rather than go out buying things in preparation for being with someone, you should instead take time to self analyse. There may not be anything wrong with you per say. I however believe that everyone could always benefit from some self improvement.

There's nothing wrong with being the age you are and having no experience. I've come across women well into their 40's who still haven't or have only just found the one for them. We also tend to overlook those who'd actually make great partners too, for instance, a friend that's been there for us through thick and thin that we consider practically family. I know a few people that found love in their best friend. Someone they never considered until taking a leap and ending up very happy.

TLDR: You're not alone, your time will come, take some time to work on yourself, things'll work out

Are you the same person as last time who posted about not being about to find a girlfriend and it turned out it was your one pickiness that stopped you from being in a relationship?

If your goal is to get a date or get a gf, then just use a dating app. Your bound to get something. They may not be the perfect one but thats why people go in and out of relationships so much. Beggars can't be choosers.

Its really easy to get dates, lots of desperate people so either you are very picky or you do something really wrong. Insecurity is easy to spot when it shows up as desperation and it's really unattractive. No sane adult wants an extremely clingy, unstable partner. Work on yourself firsthand. You cant live your life through another person, you are just trying to escape yourself. Learn to like yourself instead and you will become more chill and happy which in turn will make you a more desirable and emotionally stable partner.

According to my auntie...they're all used merchandise...girls from previous relationships hauling 2 or 3 kids...and they don't want to cook or clean...

I feel you I'm on the same boat bro...

You sound like you are not ready, I would say to not be hard on yourself. There's one out there in the world searching for you, you need to search deeper.

You're going nowhere. Women don't care about gold stars. They care about kissing. If you want to kiss a woman, it would be easy to get a man to show you how to do it.

After having empathetic help from a male, you'll want a female partner more than ever. Your desire will be noticed.