It's honestly a serious problem. These days the only way to ensure safety is to get your sexual partner to sign a contract agreeing to participate in sexual activity. Celebrities and the rich get the worst of it. Gold diggers looking to get pregnant so they can take advantage of the child support. There are many vicious people out there..
The mentality of men working with children is simply appalling. I've had all my security checks and police clearances, I've had years training and worked hard to get where I am, yet there's still (and always will be) the lingering mentality from onlookers that I'm a suspicious character. My female co-workers see a baby crying due to a fall and picks them up and giving them a reassuring, comfort hold that all carers and parents do. When I see a child crying however for the same reason, I have to get a female co-worker or risk facing the wrath of a biased/judgemental parent. Isn't it sad? Breaks my heart.
Did your wife accuse you or are you just speaking in general? If you havent been accused you may be a little too paranoid. I get the same feeling tho around kids tho. I dont want to come off like a chomo. But om the other hand you really can tell when someone is creepy with the kid. We ran into a guy at the mall that we could tell right away was bad news.
I've witnessed a whole hell of a lot worse in the world than good I can assure you of that. You may be right though, paranoia may be involved to some degree. Can you blame me though? The divorce rate is higher than ever with most claiming it was due to unfaithfulness. Getting used is commonplace in society, especially in the current generation.
While it's true, you can almost always tell if someone's suspicious and shouldn't be around kids. It's far too frequent that you see false allegations laid on men for simply doing their jobs. Misunderstandings based around bias and ignorance that can immediately terminate their career in the field they hold dearly.
In short, it's too easy for others to ruin your future. Paranoia may actually keep you from having everything you're passionate about taken from you.
Yeah you have to be careful and try not to give anyone a reason to want to ruin your life. That's what I do just try to be reasonable when people get mad at me. I dont understand the whole divorce rate. I feel like if my wife cheated on me we would work it out. Idk why thats such a deal breaker to everyone. It sucks but its not the end of the world.
Unfortunately there are people out there who need no reason to wanna ruin someones life. It could simply be you got in their way for a promotion, got the girl they wanted or spent more time with a friend you share. People are highly susceptible to impulsive behaviour. What makes it worse is when you had mental illnesses like sociopathy and psychopathy. Being capable of remaining reasonable in a world filled with unreasonable people is admirable. The fact that you found a partner that's capable of doing the same along with having such a trusting bond is something I deeply respect. Ultimately the major dealbreaker is this, the thought that when someone cheats on their partner it means they knew they were taking action on something that would cause emotional pain and sadness on the one they're supposed to care for above all others. That kind of disregard for wellbeing is a major indicator and warning sign that the person seeks to only benefit themself without consideration of others. That's the opposite of how a human being is supposed to be let alone a partner.
I dont feel like she would intentionally be trying to hurt me by cheating. I think if she was trying to hurt me she would not attempt to hide it. If she wanted to hurt me she would tell me what she was doing. I see where you're coming from tho.
By the sounds of it your wife is faithful anyway. Hypothetically however, in the eyes of most people, disloyalty/unfaithfulness is in itself an act expressing ones willingness to do so as they please unphased by how it'd affect their loved one(s).
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It's honestly a serious problem. These days the only way to ensure safety is to get your sexual partner to sign a contract agreeing to participate in sexual activity. Celebrities and the rich get the worst of it. Gold diggers looking to get pregnant so they can take advantage of the child support. There are many vicious people out there..
The mentality of men working with children is simply appalling. I've had all my security checks and police clearances, I've had years training and worked hard to get where I am, yet there's still (and always will be) the lingering mentality from onlookers that I'm a suspicious character. My female co-workers see a baby crying due to a fall and picks them up and giving them a reassuring, comfort hold that all carers and parents do. When I see a child crying however for the same reason, I have to get a female co-worker or risk facing the wrath of a biased/judgemental parent. Isn't it sad? Breaks my heart.
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Did your wife accuse you or are you just speaking in general? If you havent been accused you may be a little too paranoid. I get the same feeling tho around kids tho. I dont want to come off like a chomo. But om the other hand you really can tell when someone is creepy with the kid. We ran into a guy at the mall that we could tell right away was bad news.
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I've witnessed a whole hell of a lot worse in the world than good I can assure you of that. You may be right though, paranoia may be involved to some degree. Can you blame me though? The divorce rate is higher than ever with most claiming it was due to unfaithfulness. Getting used is commonplace in society, especially in the current generation.
While it's true, you can almost always tell if someone's suspicious and shouldn't be around kids. It's far too frequent that you see false allegations laid on men for simply doing their jobs. Misunderstandings based around bias and ignorance that can immediately terminate their career in the field they hold dearly.
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Yeah you have to be careful and try not to give anyone a reason to want to ruin your life. That's what I do just try to be reasonable when people get mad at me. I dont understand the whole divorce rate. I feel like if my wife cheated on me we would work it out. Idk why thats such a deal breaker to everyone. It sucks but its not the end of the world.
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Unfortunately there are people out there who need no reason to wanna ruin someones life. It could simply be you got in their way for a promotion, got the girl they wanted or spent more time with a friend you share. People are highly susceptible to impulsive behaviour. What makes it worse is when you had mental illnesses like sociopathy and psychopathy. Being capable of remaining reasonable in a world filled with unreasonable people is admirable. The fact that you found a partner that's capable of doing the same along with having such a trusting bond is something I deeply respect. Ultimately the major dealbreaker is this, the thought that when someone cheats on their partner it means they knew they were taking action on something that would cause emotional pain and sadness on the one they're supposed to care for above all others. That kind of disregard for wellbeing is a major indicator and warning sign that the person seeks to only benefit themself without consideration of others. That's the opposite of how a human being is supposed to be let alone a partner.
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I dont feel like she would intentionally be trying to hurt me by cheating. I think if she was trying to hurt me she would not attempt to hide it. If she wanted to hurt me she would tell me what she was doing. I see where you're coming from tho.
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By the sounds of it your wife is faithful anyway. Hypothetically however, in the eyes of most people, disloyalty/unfaithfulness is in itself an act expressing ones willingness to do so as they please unphased by how it'd affect their loved one(s).