Why is western society so feminized ?

You might want to get your testosterone checked. Sounds low. Men build and destroy civilizations. Men are natural risk takers—our value is tied to what we achieve. Not how nice we are in bed.

You say women weren't allowed to work, which is incorrect, they just didn't do more than menial work for most of human history. Why do you even think that was? Because mean old, ancient men scorned them and beat them and doubted them? Or maybe, just maybe, women aren't geared towards advancing societies, instead, they were given the tools to repopulate and keep the species alive.

Both important, but different jobs.