Why is it that we can help others but not ourselves?

You were probably raised by people who were self centered. Then you get programmed to feel you're only allowed to enjoy helping others because you never experienced things for yourself. When you find how this really affects you can then start to unlock all the little things that led to this. But yes it's normal. but it's ok to realize you deserve to experience what others do which is getting what you want sometimes too. That's fair.

There's no reason why you can't learn to do both, but sometimes it's far easier to help others than ourselves, in fact it can be a way of avoiding helping ourselves

That reminds me of the old saying: Do as I say not as I do.
Or is it, don't do what I said and do something else? Do today and never do anything again, huh

People tend to be a bit harder on themselves than other people right? So you may not wanna listen to your own advice when it might be good I don't know

I feel ya there on that one! I wish I had an answer for you.

i take my own advice everyday.