Cheating is a concoction of society's constraints. Society has convinced people that they are supposed to be monogamous, even from the point of saving virginity to one's wedding night at one time.
The reality is that humans are not monogamous. One way society has adjusted is through serial monogamy, where the rule is that it is ok to be have as many partners as desired, but only one at a time. That's silly. Why should someone have to end a perfectly good relationship in order to have sex with someone else? Why must it be all or nothing? Even if more than just sex on the side, why are people so closed minded to believe a person can only love one other at a time?
Cheating would not exist if open relationships were acceptable. Swingers are not cheating, but they also keep their lifestyle secret. My wife allows me to have a girlfriend, under her rules. It means our relationship can stand.
How many relationships are destroyed because a woman files for divorce the minute she finds out her husband was with another woman? If she were taught to be more open minded, that need not happen.
If society were not so Pope and Puritan inspired, we would still have polygamous families (not to be confused with cult-corrupted ones that exist today) and it would be better for many, not all, involved. I would love for my girlfriend to move in with my wife and I. But society won't allow it.
I know people in genuinely happy open marriages/polygamous relationships. It's great for them but I know a lot of people couldn't necessarily handle sharing their partner - but I think that's up to each couple to work out for themselves.
I think if it works for all parties involved & everyone is a consenting adult then go for it and enjoy :)
Why is it so many cheat?
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Cheating is a concoction of society's constraints. Society has convinced people that they are supposed to be monogamous, even from the point of saving virginity to one's wedding night at one time.
The reality is that humans are not monogamous. One way society has adjusted is through serial monogamy, where the rule is that it is ok to be have as many partners as desired, but only one at a time. That's silly. Why should someone have to end a perfectly good relationship in order to have sex with someone else? Why must it be all or nothing? Even if more than just sex on the side, why are people so closed minded to believe a person can only love one other at a time?
Cheating would not exist if open relationships were acceptable. Swingers are not cheating, but they also keep their lifestyle secret. My wife allows me to have a girlfriend, under her rules. It means our relationship can stand.
How many relationships are destroyed because a woman files for divorce the minute she finds out her husband was with another woman? If she were taught to be more open minded, that need not happen.
If society were not so Pope and Puritan inspired, we would still have polygamous families (not to be confused with cult-corrupted ones that exist today) and it would be better for many, not all, involved. I would love for my girlfriend to move in with my wife and I. But society won't allow it.
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I know people in genuinely happy open marriages/polygamous relationships. It's great for them but I know a lot of people couldn't necessarily handle sharing their partner - but I think that's up to each couple to work out for themselves.
I think if it works for all parties involved & everyone is a consenting adult then go for it and enjoy :)