Normal people enter into relationships thinking they will never be tempted, they will never cheat, it will never happen to them.
Since they think it could never happen to them, because ţhęy would never cheat, they don't mentally prepare themselves for the inevitable day when their relationship hits a bump or when everything becomes routine and dull. Then, one day, they're faced with the allure of a person outside of their relationship, someone who is willing to make them feel good, or at least better than their partner has been making them feel.
Absolutely, there are cheaters who cheat pathologically. They will do it again and again in every relationship they have. Those people aren't common. What IS common is normal people who make bad choices.
The saying "once a cheater, always a cheater" is an exaggeration. The truth is, most normal people who cheat either get caught or confess. They feel authentic remorse and then learn from their fuck-up. The ones who dont feel remorse might cheat again, simply because they didnt learn anything from it except that there are no consequences.
It makes sense, it is just so very frustrating as a single person! Especially when he tells you he's divorced and then come to find out, he isn't. Makes dating and trusting even harder.
I get that relationships become complacent but to me that means do something WITHIN the relationship, is that wrong to think?
Why is it so many cheat?
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Normal people enter into relationships thinking they will never be tempted, they will never cheat, it will never happen to them.
Since they think it could never happen to them, because ţhęy would never cheat, they don't mentally prepare themselves for the inevitable day when their relationship hits a bump or when everything becomes routine and dull. Then, one day, they're faced with the allure of a person outside of their relationship, someone who is willing to make them feel good, or at least better than their partner has been making them feel.
Absolutely, there are cheaters who cheat pathologically. They will do it again and again in every relationship they have. Those people aren't common. What IS common is normal people who make bad choices.
The saying "once a cheater, always a cheater" is an exaggeration. The truth is, most normal people who cheat either get caught or confess. They feel authentic remorse and then learn from their fuck-up. The ones who dont feel remorse might cheat again, simply because they didnt learn anything from it except that there are no consequences.
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It makes sense, it is just so very frustrating as a single person! Especially when he tells you he's divorced and then come to find out, he isn't. Makes dating and trusting even harder.
I get that relationships become complacent but to me that means do something WITHIN the relationship, is that wrong to think?