Why does she only snap chat me instead of ask me questions

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Met this girl off a lez dating site and been Facebook friends for over a couple weeks now. She snaps me every day but I'm assuming she sends the same pictures to all her friends. We have had a lot of great conversations and shes an open book however, she never asks me questions about myself eg how was your day, what's your family life like, do you enjoy your work etc. Here I am trying to get to know her and shes great at communicating like she will ask questions back and elaborate. It just bothers me she doesnt ask questions as snap chats me random pics ya know. She likes a lot of pics I post on instagram and Facebook. Shes introverted and has depression too. I feel like she has low self esteem issues too because in a lot of her pics she filters them and/or blurs her face out. A lot of other pics I can see her face clear as and she has a pleasant face so why blur them idk. She has sent me a legit selfie too and she is normal looking but cute. She lives 8 hrs away in same country as me. We have a lot of similarities and she posted this meme saying she wants a gf she can give flowers too and take on cute dates. We both agreed if we met irl we would go on a casual date and she says I'm cool and chill. So why does she not ask me questions about my personal life?

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  • leggs91200
    5 years ago

    She is more interested in herself than she is anyone else. That is why she sits around taking pictures of herself all day.
    There is nothing wrong with you, it is just that she is too into herself.
    Even if you two were to meet up for a date (God knows HOW since you two live 8 hours apart) she would likely just be sitting there staring at her phone the whole time.

    A lot of millenials have no life outside their phone. At that precious age where one is old enough to be an adult yet still young enough to have the energy and time to have a real social life BUT what do they do? Sit around and stare at their phones all day.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      Well she doesnt take pics of herself all day, more like a combination of things such as dogs or her exams so like just random stuff. In her pics she filters her face though as she doesnt like the way she looks as she says shes average.

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  • SwickDinging
    5 years ago

    Going purely off what you've said here it sounds like she's very self-obsessed. So don't take it personally, she probably just hasn't stopped thinking about herself for long enough to ask you anything.

    Keep searching until you find someone who cares enough to ask you about yourself.

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  • [Old Memory]
    5 years ago

    cause she doesn't care or doesnt know to ask
    confront her!

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  • LornaMae
    5 years ago

    To me it sounds like she's not your "ONE". Too far away (narrow down your range on Brenda! - or whatever app you've been using); and too generic sending Snaps to everyone. If she's not talking to you on a personal level - like, asking questions about you - she's on show to everyone and trying to see which lez falls for her faster. Find another one closer to you. LDR are only for people who know each other well enough and are really willing to tough it out!

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  • IrishPotato
    5 years ago

    How about... You ask her?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      I did and she said shes sends them to a few key people. To be Frank I didnt tell her that id appreciate if she asked me questions about myself because I feel its something u shouldn't have to ask ya know

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  • RoseIsabella
    5 years ago

    I dunno, you could just ask her. Do you ask her personal questions about her life? Maybe she's one of those introverts who is socially awkward? Have ya'll ever skyped? I think ya'll should do Skype, and meet on the phone.

    Be careful there are lots of catfish in the water out there.

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    • leggs91200
      5 years ago

      If someone is sending out daily pics of themselves, wouldn't you think they would be legit? I mean they would have to collect a lot of photos of the same person.

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      • RoseIsabella
        5 years ago

        I guess.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      Yeah I ask her plenty questions and I seen her Facebook and insta and shes definitely legit I feel she has low confidence as she says shes average looking which she is kinda but still easy on the eye. I'm planning to ring her this Friday but I have heard her voice through messenger

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      • RoseIsabella
        5 years ago

        Okay.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          5 years ago

          Yeah, any other advice?

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          • RoseIsabella
            5 years ago

            Just be yourself, and see where it goes. Don't try to make anything happen. If she doesn't turn out to be what you thought try not to let it bother you too much, and move on from there.

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