Why does she not invite me to introduce me to others?

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Did something odd the other day and on Facebook I was scrolling through the people on the going list to this up and coming lesbian events.
I decided to message one of the people asking her if there are any outdoor events, as I'd rather go to something outdoors. I explained she looks cool and said sorry if I'm weird for this but oh well. Anyways she was really nice, She said add me on Facebook so I can add you to the entourage group, whatever this is I'm still unsure. We got talking, I said I'm still finding myself and I'm nervous.
She explained I can talk to her about my situation if I like and said I'm not judging at all, quite the opposite :) if you want to talk about things or your situation - feel free
I ended up thinking maybe I could possibly go with her and she could introduce me to people but when I asked if shes going to the big gay out which is at a park a few months from now, she said yes but didnt invite me to tag along?
I also said that she has a great singing voice, and I really like the way you look and how she has a perfect blend of masculine and feminine, I said this straight after I explained my situation re my sexuality and she only replied to my situation not the compliment? She obviously knows I'm not hitting on her as I'm still unsure and also trying to find friends. What she said is fine, but I mean she could have at least said thanks?
Regarding the big gay out I said may see u around as I asked are u going? She said yeah potentially. I mean shes a DJ I get it, shes cool and has tatts and probably feels superior considering her line of work but I seen images of her ex. Her ex looks like a plain jane, no offense and I'm not bad either so I mean why not even hang out as friends or introduce me to others.

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  • JD777
    5 years ago

    You approached a total stranger about all this and she was responsive, polite and helpful. Be happy with that. Don’t expect her job is now to be your personal escort.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      I am happy, in fact I was stoked! With having said that, I would have also liked to meet as friends but perhaps in time that could happen.

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  • Sacksize
    5 years ago

    From personal experience I will ignor a compliment but politely respond to whatever else was said as a method to curb any other compliments or to not make someone feel “led on”. To me it sounds like she wants to be friendly with you but not give you the wrong idea by accepting/reacting to the compliment. Also, I do think if she wanted to invite you, she would, rather than just responding with yes I am going. She didn’t even ask you if you were going did she? I think she’s just being a nice human who is interested in what you say and still caring about you but also trying not to give the wrong idea. I know you said she knows you are not hitting in her but maybe she’s just trying to keep it that way. You know?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      Yeah well I simply just had the urge to compliment because I thought she looks cool and has a nice voice, all I'm saying really. Could have easily said thanks out of common decency but oh well. She didnt ask me if I'm going that's correct, a little disappointing as I'm trying to find new friends in the LGBT community so I can potentially meet someone.

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      • Sacksize
        5 years ago

        I totally get that, maybe she’s just not good with receiving compliments ? Maybe she’s afraid of coming off as being really into her self like “thanks, I know I have a great voice” or “thanks, I know i look good”. Either way, as long as she wasn’t like a rude bitch or anything to you I wouldn’t be too upset over it.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          5 years ago

          Yeah hmm...thanks for the advice!

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  • RoseIsabella
    5 years ago

    I think you are overthinking this, and taking it way too personal.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      Still no answer?

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      • RoseIsabella
        5 years ago

        Well, it just sounds like she's the contact person for the group. If you go to the event you might run into her. Ya'll hardly know each other, and it seems you're expecting too much from all of this. Just go to the event if you feel so inclined, and try to have a good time. If you see her be friendly, and do some small talk. Maybe she'll invite you to hang out with her friends, and maybe she won't. You just met this person, don't rush things.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          5 years ago

          Yeah true thank you, I will give it some time. If we are meant to meet then I'll eventually bump into her I guess..

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          • RoseIsabella
            5 years ago

            Yep.

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