Basically what is happening is she feels too secure. If at all possible, try to instill in her that her being there is NOT contributing to the household.
Tell her she knows where the door is if she doesn't like it at home.
Or you could sit her down and explain in a nonchalant manner that you know she hates it there so you will be seeking other options for her to stay.
What about sending her to her dad? What about some other relative? If nothing else, look into foster care.
If she is just being a shit sometimes, that is normal. If it is overwhelming, like if she is rude to you, failing school, causing problems around the neighborhood... Foster her ass OUT. You won't likely regret it. Yeah you will be sad for maybe a day or two but it is like divorce - just days after you get used to the peace and quiet.
Maybe foster isn't safe, i do not know. Just think of it as an "advanced discipline measure".
Extreme situations require extreme measures.
Talk about a throw away approach: she's not a piece of rubbish, she is a HUMAN BEING and you're suggesting that because the parent can't cope the child should be fostered out? And you'd "show the door" to a 12 year old?
I'm sorry that happened to you, that should never have happened.
I know a woman who whinges that her daughter (now in her early 20's) "abandoned the family" when she was about 15, but I'd heard that mother tell the girl when she was much younger than that to "just get out and live on the streets where you belong". I was outraged and told her so: that and the issue of hearing the girl screaming from several houses way while being belted led to the end of the friendship.
The mother, who was a Hare Krishna fuckwit, also wanted to send the daughter away to an ashram in India where an older sister had been raped by the guru in charge and from memory that was the final straw for the daughter which led to her leaving home.
The daughter & I did become friends, but she moved a fair way away so I don't see her as often as I'd like.
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Basically what is happening is she feels too secure. If at all possible, try to instill in her that her being there is NOT contributing to the household.
Tell her she knows where the door is if she doesn't like it at home.
Or you could sit her down and explain in a nonchalant manner that you know she hates it there so you will be seeking other options for her to stay.
What about sending her to her dad? What about some other relative? If nothing else, look into foster care.
If she is just being a shit sometimes, that is normal. If it is overwhelming, like if she is rude to you, failing school, causing problems around the neighborhood... Foster her ass OUT. You won't likely regret it. Yeah you will be sad for maybe a day or two but it is like divorce - just days after you get used to the peace and quiet.
Maybe foster isn't safe, i do not know. Just think of it as an "advanced discipline measure".
Extreme situations require extreme measures.
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Talk about a throw away approach: she's not a piece of rubbish, she is a HUMAN BEING and you're suggesting that because the parent can't cope the child should be fostered out? And you'd "show the door" to a 12 year old?
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I was half that age when my step dad started with threats about kicking me out.
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I'm sorry that happened to you, that should never have happened.
I know a woman who whinges that her daughter (now in her early 20's) "abandoned the family" when she was about 15, but I'd heard that mother tell the girl when she was much younger than that to "just get out and live on the streets where you belong". I was outraged and told her so: that and the issue of hearing the girl screaming from several houses way while being belted led to the end of the friendship.
The mother, who was a Hare Krishna fuckwit, also wanted to send the daughter away to an ashram in India where an older sister had been raped by the guru in charge and from memory that was the final straw for the daughter which led to her leaving home.
The daughter & I did become friends, but she moved a fair way away so I don't see her as often as I'd like.