Why do women even have a sex drive?

Serious question!!! They do, we all know they do. Women have a sex drive, but why? Some people thinks its so they enjoy sex enough to produce children, but that makes no sense because if they want to produce children and be good parent's the process shouldn't have to feel good otherwise they don't want kids! What parents only had kids because the sex felt good that one night? So then people say pleasure. But my question now is why give women such a risky source of pleasure? Doesn't mother nature know about unplanned pregnacies, std's and other shit like that? And why do humans get this form of pleasure from sex but nothing else. Whats so special about sex if its not about reproducing? For guys it makes sense because they are the agressor in reproduction so more sex for them is better. But whats the point for women??? Maybe I'm just bored but it legit does mot make sense why women have a sex drive. I am not being sexist! Please comment your thoughts in addition to voting in the poll.

Encourage reproduction only. 11
Pleasure only. 6
Pleasure and encourage reproduction. 34
To give guys more pleasure because more women will have sex. 6
Other...please comment ans explain!!! 3
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  • Tealights

    1. Dopamine + other chemicals in the brain. If women didn't experience dopamine +others from sex and the partner they're with, birth rates would be low and men would be sexually frustrated nonstop, and rape will be at an all time high as well as death rates if women choose to take the law into their own hands.

    2. If women can't experience sexual pleasure, sex will just be painful, dry and awkward, because when we get excited our vagina will self lubricate during sex. Without that pleasure, both involved will just get friction burn (yeah, it happens) or have to spend a lot of money on lubricate to do an activity the woman hardly wants to take part in.

    3. Some studies revealed that female orgasm creates a higher chance for a male offspring. What I've read is when women experience an orgasm accompany with fluids (squirting) during sex, it helps sperms cells travel. It's been mentioned that female sperm cells are larger, slower and can live longer, while male sperm are small and fast but can't live as long. Fluids from the woman during orgasm + sex can boost the chances of male sperm reaching it's destination. However, it's something I've read but haven't tested, but other women who were trying for a boy claims this technique works.

    4. Signals. Women sex drive increases during ovulation week. Though many of us don't make it as obvious and some make it too obvious, you can see it in our body language when we appear more confident, approachable, and wearing clothes we don't normally wear (long sundress, a cute mid-length skirt, new hairstyle, etc); these are natural signals that men pick up on when they see a fertile woman, especially our husbands/boyfriends. With these urges in play, the change in our appearance and more creates a higher chance of reproducing.

    There's probably more to it I can list off cause I read shit like this for fun (just do a google deep dive), but I can tell you that if women never experience arousal then the world would be much more chaotic than it is now.

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    • SwickDinging

      Spot on about increasing fertility. Every one of my children was planned and my husband and I always timed it so we orgasmed at the same time. There are enough studies on it now to give the theory credit.

      The bit about producing boys v girls doesn't seem to work in studies, although the science is there to back up the idea.

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    • But would birth rates really lower that much? If you don't count unplanned pregnancies I don't think it would affect the birth rate much if women had no sex drive. You meet someone you and want to live your whole life with them and start a family, is all that reall just because sex feels good?

      Your third point is something to go off though that I haven't thought about. But with your second and fourth point I just wonder why being more fertile is always considered good. Like if so many people nowadays just want sex and not to reproduce, why is the desire for sex not affected by the fact that we make sure reproduction won't happen. Like If I'm a guy, why would I be just as excited to have sex with a woman with her tubes tied as my wife trying to have a baby?

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      • Tealights

        Yeah. Dopamine and the other chemicals play an important part in how we feel about others and the activities we do.

        The 2nd point was confusing and about fertility? The hell... Anyway, a dry vagina during sex sucks. If we never got aroused, you'll have to buy, not only condoms but lubrication as well.

        As for the 4th point, addition to body language, we admit pheromones when aroused (men too), which throws people for a loop if affected by it. For all you know your senses could be picking up on various things when you meet women. Also, a woman getting her tubes tied does not stop her natural urges to reproduce, she just doesn't have to worry about getting pregnant when she's aroused and ready to mate.

        As for fertility, it's good for continuing our species which is what every animal on earth does, but for humans with medicines that help us live longer makes reproducing so frequently necessary. But both men and women can't switch their natural urges off.

        Since you agreed with my 3rd point, but confused on all others, you come off as a bit mysyonistic... Do you dislike women?

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        • I don't dislike women? WTF? I AM a woman last I checked, but I'll check again just in case. Yep, no dick. So back to the discussion. Women have a sex drive so we don't have to use lube? Sounds weird but I have no clue so I guess your better at this than me lol.

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          • Tealights

            Sorry. Also, you don't have to be a guy to dislike women, but I thought I'll ask. >_ <

            Yup. The more sex you have the easier it gets and the fast your body prepares during arousal. It's fascinating. Also, antibiotics can stop natural lubrication and make some forms of birth control ineffective, it's crazy.

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      • Doesnormalmatter

        Your last sentence leaves me baffled. Sex drive is such a polarizing thing in my life yet I specifically use condoms just to avoid the result that my body wants the sex for in the first place.

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    • Jimbo24

      The first one is a load of nonsense. I've never banged a woman because she was horny and "wanted that dick!" Females have sex for money, security, or for some other favor. You know the saying, "A girl needs a reason; a guy needs a place."

      So no, there wouldn't any rape or any of that stuff. It'd just be business as usual. You think "close your eyes and think of England" was said to females who experience that natural lubrication? No, they were just being told to do their duty. And that's all a society needs and has ever needed to keep going.

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      • Tealights

        Oh, you had some rough experiences.

        Personally, I've never heard of that saying; and I've never had sex for money or items so.... I guess where you come from this is true, but not for everyone as you're implying.

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        • By 'rough' expiriences do you mean not getting laid enough?

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          • Tealights

            Nah, he was dealing with women who were all about business. I think it's rough, because it doesn't seem enjoyable for both involved.

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            • Jimbo24

              Sex is always enjoyable for me.

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            • But then why would sex taht is not mutually enjoyed be continued. If I ain't happy you ain't sleeping with me again!

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        • Jimbo24

          Money is just a medium for value exchange, at the end of the day. But sometimes, other things are directly traded, like a relationship: she puts out, and you stick around and deal with whatever BS she throws at you.

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          • Lol you are sounding kinda sexist now don't you think? You really think that men just put up with women throwing BS at them for sex? You speak as if men are superior.

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            • charli.m

              And you think your entire post doesnt read as if you think women are completely unimportant?

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            • Jimbo24

              That's just the basic trade of a relationship. The female trades sex for the man's availability, support, taking her places and that kind of thing. And vice-versa for men, they do all that stuff to get sex.

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      • Lol shots fired. A girl needs a reason a guy needs a place, hahahaha. Its funny and generalized but has some truth to it I guess.

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        • Jimbo24

          Of course it's true. Why do you think rape desires are so common among females? Because rape is the ultimate reason! "It wasn't my fault. I had to. He made me!" That way they don't feel guilty about it.

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          • Rape desires are so common among females....uhhhh about that. I don't know if you and I have the same idea of 'so common' in our heads, but I haven't heard of them much at all and never had them myself. Not even once. Where are you getting this idea from?

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            • Tealights

              There's some truth to what he's saying about the rape fantasy. However, that depends on the woman. For those of us who haven't been raped, we fantasize about rape as this really hot guy coming in and forcing himself on us without harming us; then he somehow becoming our boyfriend/husband later or something stupid like that.

              Of course real rape is nothing like that. It's always done by a horrible family member/acquaintance or some dirty stranger with an obsession and an opportunity. Then there's the chance it could end with you dying or being beaten.

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            • Jimbo24

              I don't know, it's just some common knowledge. Women often say they have rape fantasies. And the bondage and abduction type of romance sells well. Hence those "bodice rippers."

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  • Ellenna

    So you're a woman who doesn't realise we happen to have the only organ in existence with pleasure its only purpose: the clitoris. Explain how that fits into your ridiculous theories.

    Explain also why post menopausal women who obviously cannot conceive experience sexual desire and pleasure?

    To my mind, it's a sign of a great advance in the human species that sexual pleasure has become totally separate from the desire to reproduce more human beings in an already overcrowded world with diminishing resources. In fact, it could be the greatest evolutionary step of all time, not to mention that it's REALLY GOOD FUN!

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    • Last paragraph I agree with.

      Second paragraph : I don't know and never claimed to. This whole post is a question not me answering anything.

      First paragraph : I am well aware about the clitoris and sexual pleasure thank yoh very much! But what ridiculous theories are you talking about? I never revealed why I think women have a sex drive. You are acting like I'm arguing that women don't even have a sex drive! We have a clit, we get pleasure, we have a sex drive. All true! But why?

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      • Ellenna

        WHY NOT? Maybe because it's an enjoyable aspect of being human? You might as well ask why people enjoy eating food they like or music or sport and so on and on?

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        • Why not? Uhhh... the burden of proof is one you buster. Why not give me a gold bar? Why not?

          Okay that is added to the list. So far we have:

          -So you don't have to use lube.
          -so rape doesn't happen.
          -because why not?

          I think I have stumped people more than I intended lol.

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          • Ellenna

            What is this bullshit about not using lube and rape doesn't happen? I'm stumped all right, stumped by idiocy

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            • That is what two other people who commented claimed is the reason women have a sex drive. I am not agreeing with those reasons, I am saying how pathetic those answers are is a testament to how baffled humanity at large is with the conundrum of why woman have a sex drive!

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  • SwickDinging

    Reproduction. All living things are biologically programmed to want survive and to reproduce. It's the reason for most things. The human race must continue.

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    • The mental block I run into with this is why give women pleasure for reproducing? Do you really think most people who have kids wouldn't have kids if sex wasn't fun? Do people really think "man lets have kids because sex feels good!" I don't see why the incentive of pleasure is neccessary.

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      • charli.m

        Wow. Just wow.

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        • Wow what? Agree or not, if not why?

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  • Thats what I'm arguing god dammit! Why is ppeasure nessecary for reproducing? If you want kids, you have them, if you don't want em, you pull out or use a condomn or whatever. Pleasure would not swing such a valuable descion especially when you can use contraceptives.

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  • Jimbo24

    Yeah, I don't know. Interesting question. Because unlike male orgasm, the female one is useless for reproduction. The other commenter pointed out that it may help fertilize a little, but it can still be done without.

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    • Yep, female orgasm is as hard to understand as female sex drive in general. This question is baffling people hahahaha I knew it!

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  • Jimbo24

    Here's the thing. Females have two sex drives. One is the purely physical one, the "horniness". But this one is secondary. The primary one is the "ego drive", the instinct, which is what typically settles their decision whether to bang or not to bang. The ego tells them to get something for it, a reason to put out, otherwise they feel bad about it. And what fulfills it is the resources they extract from the guy (time, energy, money, status, etc.) And that's why "being horny" is pretty much irrelevant, since the other drive is what typically settles it.

    By the way, males also have two sex drives: the physical one, and the instinctive one. They get horny physically, but their ego one is to just "having banged." So they crave sex physically, and also instinctively. That's why they always seem "on the hunt" and down for it even when they're not particularly horny.

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    • Nikclaire

      Then explain lesbianism. What females get from sex is the same as what males do. Physical pleasure. I'm going to blow your mind and let you in on a little secret. WE MASTURBATE TOO.

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      • Jimbo24

        Masturbation and lesbianism are ways for females to satisfy their physical sex drive without feeling used and guilty about it. The guilt they would've felt for not obtaining something in return for putting out to a guy who didn't give them a reason to.

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    • Where exactly is this multiple sex drive voodoo coming from? I don't agree. Your basicalky saying that me as a woman has an 'instinct' to be a prostitute. Yep, you can fuck off.

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      • Jimbo24

        That's exactly what it is. You can hate it, but it won't change. Why do you think they call it the oldest profession? It's right in the female's DNA, because trading sex for resources is how they survived in more challenging times.

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        • How do you explain masterbation and lesbian desires then? Or women that don't bang with rich guys. Every woman would be with a rich guy who has a six pack according to you. How do you explain women with working class dad bod types?

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          • Jimbo24

            Women, like men, take what they can get in life.

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            • Lol. Nice broad statement to dogde everyting! Please be more SPECIFIC because what you said doesn't explain anything I asked.

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        • Nikclaire

          Explain female masturbation then. Because....yep we do.

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    • Jimbo24

      That's why males call having banged "score", especially with a new female. This is just the ego talking. Whereas the girl version of "score" is having the males invest in them in some way, if only in attention, the higher-status the better.

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      • Doesnormalmatter

        Nobody does that anymore mate. How old are you? I don't try an flex on people when I get laid.

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        • Jimbo24

          Neither do I. But it doesn't matter whether you do it. It's about the thought/feeling behind it. Saying "score" is ultimately just expressing the satisfaction you get from, well, scoring.

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          • Doesnormalmatter

            I don't agree at all. Just about 3 people know I've even had sex. If I was trying to felx on people I would be more open about it. I know people don't care and its none of their buisness so I don't make it. This whole thing is so childish.

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  • Jimbo24

    Being sexually wanted or not was never really an obstacle for men laying women down. Or else there wouldn't be such a thing as rape, or arranged marriages in the past, and prostitution would be almost nonexistent.

    And what makes you think these women don't want those men? Women want whoever manages to get them, by making himself powerful or indispensable enough to do so. Why are so many women attracted to rich men, to men with money? They want to have a piece of that lifestyle, security, and power that wealth provides, and so they want the man who provides that. That's one of the things that make a man desirable, and as such, they'll submit to him in order to get it.

    Well, as a john, I'm also the man with the money. And so the hooker depends on me and on other johns to get that money so she can pay her rent, or mortgage, to get material security, maintain a certain lifestyle, or whatever. That makes those men wanted, needed, and therefore desired as mates, as she can only get that money if she offers herself to them and submits. It's a kind of power, being needed, depended on, and that power sort of forces her to suck their dicks. That's her "reason" to have sex with them.

    So I think you're underestimating how being a source of income, or anything financial, can make the man himself an attractive mate. Case in point, most women still see financial support as what makes a good husband, even though women are earning more than ever: https://www.pewresearch.org/wp-content/uploads/2017/09/FT_17.09.20_Spouses_forcouplestoday.png

    But again, even if we weren't sexually appealing to them, it still wouldn't be a problem to most men so long as they get them to bend over for them at the end of the day.

    As to the guys with seemingly nothing to offer. As I said in that other comment, money isn't the only thing a man can provide. He can offer a relationship for example. Actually, the typical relationships among young people don't involve much money since most young men are broke. But there are other values that can be traded for sex. There's that Rachel Feinstein comedian, and in one of her specials called Only Whores Wear Purple, she talked about a relationship of hers with some erratic drunk of a guy. She said that he brought excitement and entertainment to her life like no other, and that she stuck with him just for that reason. Plus, she wanted to have a man's chest to put her head on at the end of the day. Being exciting, thrilling, providing a masculine presence, those are all various non-sexual values a man can have, and he can make obtaining sex as a condition for him to provide them.

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  • curious-bunny

    I'm curious as to what comments will pop up from this

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    • But what do you think??? That is the question here, although I also am curious. I hope more people see this and weigh in.

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    • Doesnormalmatter

      Same lol. This makes my brain hurt so I hope someone else will do the thinking.

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  • SomeInternetPerson1289

    Just looking at the comments already made, I just wanna mention that birth rates would drop exponentially if women simply never wanted to have sex ever. If any respectful dude asks for sex, and get a no, then that's that. In this hypothetical, the answer would almost always be a no, as no female on the planet is in the mood, ever.

    To answer your question of why it exists: Any women who did not have a sex drive had way less sex than those who had one. Natural Selection at it again.

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    • I disagree. I think birthrates would drop only slightly, and that drop would only be because of no unplanned pregnancies. No women decides to have kids just because sex feels good. If you have an intentional pregnancy its because you want to raise kids, not because the sex feels good once.

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  • chrysocolla

    Humans exist solely to reproduce. In nature there's no such thing as an unplanned pregnancy, just an abandoned baby.

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  • McBean

    Did you know that Lesbians will go thru the anguish and horror of having sex with a man just to get a baby off of him?

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  • raisinbran

    Our species would propagate through rape. Men would be fighting over possession and control of females constantly.

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    • So thats really the reason? So far I have gotten so we don't need to use lube and now so rape doesn't happen? Do you think mother nature cares if rape happens? She has no passion for us!

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      • raisinbran

        If our species evolved through rape, the lubrication would occur without the female's consent.

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        • So what? Its a moral wrong, but does evolution care? Does evolution set things up so animals don't rape eachother either?

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          • raisinbran

            Rape happens everywhere in nature. Do you think every mating encounter is 50/50 consent?

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            • That proves my point mothafucko!!! You said its so women will consent and rape won't happen, and I said your wrong because mother nature doesn't care when rape happens, as evidenced by the fact that animals rape all the fucking time! Checkmate!!

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  • Excellent commemt bru. This guys fulla horse shit ans thinks he knows exactly how women work.

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  • GaelicPotato

    Reasons.

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    • Care to elaborate?

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      • GaelicPotato

        Because things.

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        • Ha! I stumped you like everyone else. I wasn't even trying to!

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            !

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  • To keep stain rooten em, rather then booten em

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    • That makes no danm sense. Care to clarify?

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      • What it means dear boy, is that stain hopes they have a sex drive, knows they have a sex drive, fuck all the need to breed shit, I'm selfish an need a fuck, ya dig

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        • I am a woman don't assume ny gender please! We know you a selfish horny bitch of a man but can you please take your personal feelings out of it and take a guess at why women have a sex drive?

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          • But you assume I'm a man.. So I can't assume but you can? Kinda entitled baby.

            Why do women have a sex drive? The same reason a fruit tree flowers, self preservation, simple as that girl!

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            • False. Women die just as slow or fast whether or bot they have sex. It makes minimal difference on mortality and they all die anyways. And you also clearly didn't rea dthe post. I said reproduction doesn't make a valid case because pleasure isn't nessecary to motivate reproduction. Nodody has kids just because sex feels good.

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            • I knew you were a man because you 'needed a fuck' and fuck is the act of inserting a penis, which is what men have.

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  • Blame basic biology. Women were made with clits. When clits are stimulated, women feel awesome and want more. End of.

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    • But why though? We all know tye clit is an organ just for pleasure, but why is pleasure nessecary for women?

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  • TheBlindInquisitor

    Because they do.

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    • Care to elaborate? What did you vote and why? I already awknowledged they did in the damn post!

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      • TheBlindInquisitor

        Chill I was just fucking around if you want me to be serious then yes they have it because it's just like that.

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        • That still isn't a good response. Please be serious this is a serious post!

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          • TheBlindInquisitor

            That was me being serious I read your post and I have given my response. Sorry I wish I could give more.

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            • Why did I stump everyone lol. I was expecting a concise scientific reason and be done. This is getting kinda out of hand looool.

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  • Cuntsiclestick

    Well while there is pleasure in it, it's also a way to feel closer to the one I love, so I guess love is one of my reasons.

    For the single chicks that have one night stands, it's purely pleasure. They're not looking to have a kid, but they won't have to take that risk if they use protection. Though most chicks I knew over the years that are into hook ups admit they never use contraceptive methods because they say they like how a dick feels without a condom or they'll say they like taking risks since the risk is arousing. I don't have one night stands so I'm just going by what they said to me. (Then there were also some I knew that purposly got pregnant to get money from the guy, so I guess money was a factor for some chicks.) I'm not trying to speak for people who are into hookups nor am I trying to insult them.

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    • It seems to me more like you are adressing what it means to different people, which is a little of topic. I wanna know why it exists, no what uses people get out of it.

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  • Doesnormalmatter

    Honestly I can't really say. I'm sure theres and answer but I can't think my way to it. I'm glad they do have one though thats all I know!

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    • Think about it god dammit!! Use your mofuckin brain cells!!!

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      • Doesnormalmatter

        I'm working on it just give me a while to research! I'm taking this seriously because I'm so bored haha.

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